In a controversial study of divorced families, Blakeslee & Wallerstein (1989) state that most children have the same initial feelings. "When their family breaks up, children feel vulnerable, for they fear that their lifeline is in danger of being cut". Early on, children develop a sense of how relationships are formed and how they are maintained by watching their parents. Sometimes divorce can have a positive affect on a child if what they are observing from their parents is fighting and abuse while they are together. As a result of their parents divorcing, most people have a stronger desire to fix what their own parents could not in their own adult lives.
Divorce is becoming more prevalent in our society and unfortunately affects every single person involved. What's more, children are highly affected by divorce and some remain affected throughout their entire lives. No matter how smoothly the marriage ends or how many relationships are patched up, the children remain victims in this epidemic spreading throughout the nation. Though school-age children cope better with separation between parents, there are still many problems that they face. They too are afraid of punishment and abandonment or the possibility of being replaced.
She says that children from divorce family lose faith in marriage and are unable to make any relationship in their social life or in society. As her research moves ahead, she augers divorce among parents creates insecurity and makes child feel insecure when he or she other children with their parents happy and love bonding among themselves makes them insecure from inside. Third Thoughts on Divorce," National Review, Vol. 54, March 25, 2002, p. 50. Copyright © 2002 by National Review.
“Child of Rage” & “Scared Silent” A severely unattached child is a child that has been abused or neglected, has been separated from their caregiver, inconsistent or inappropriate parenting, exposure to alcohol or drugs, and has been a witness or victim of violence. Severely unattached children cannot trust others, tends to lie, and cannot identify or verbalize their feelings. The thing that causes Catherine to have this problem is her childhood. When she was little she had lost her mother to leukemia and never really got to know her. Also her father sexually and verbally abused her.
Other than that of course there are different stages of mixed up feelings either anger, conflicts adapting to the new life, sadness and grief. Some people after going through the process of divorce move out of the house so children start to go to new schools, have new friends or go to different neighbor hoods which is something that increases their feeling of anger because they feel that their life had totally changed and they should adapt to so many new dwells so that makes the subject harder. Of course divorce isn’t only about parents fighting all the time or parents that can’t take it any longer or so on. There are
Some would think that they will miss their families and relationships and most of all, love. But the people in Utopia have never experienced any of these. They were brought up in conditioning centers and feel that parents and family are primitive. The mere sound of the word annoys them. Monogamy is discouraged by the utopian society and considered improper “Four months of Henry Foster, without having another man…why, he’d be furious if he knew…” This restrains people from getting too emotionally involved and putting their loved one’s needs before the society’s needs.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder We live in a world raged with war, hatred, rapes, loss, love, trust and peace to name a few. With continued threat of nuclear war, murder to include mass killings of innocent people (children), and increased mental illnesses life can be difficult for people to find their balance especially after suffering a traumatic event. The past has taught many to hide the negative and show the positive. The old fake it until you make it concept. The past has taught that it was almost shameful to show weaknesses and difficulties in a person’s life, especially when the persons issues may reflective negatively on the family.
Debra Goodlett states, “[Love] addiction occurs in people who have little to anchor them to life.” This type of addiction causes an increasing dependency on another person to feel gratification in their lives due to their lack of strong role models when they were growing up. This is clearly illustrated in both Catherine and Heathcliff. During Catherine’s years as a youth, she was deprived of a strong parental figure. Unfortunately, with both her parents passing away when she was just a child, Catherine was denied the opportunity to develop a positive outlook on life. Even when her father was alive, he would reveal his disappointments in Catherine, saying things to her such as “Why canst thou not always be a good lass, Cathy?” This suggests he was never proud of her and could
Parent illness and no other relative to take care of the child 5. Abusive relationships between parents 6. Parents using drugs There are lots of changes that the child or young person will experience when coming into care, their emotions and feelings will change, they feel upset and lonely and may feel they have done something wrong, they will feel confused and anxious and not understand why they have been taken away from their family and will not fully understand what is happening to them. It can be a very scary time for them meeting people they don’t know and their new surroundings, there are lots of people involved when a child or young person comes into care which will be very daunting for them especially for a younger child, an older child may not want to co-operate with the social workers or the foster carer’s which will be a very stressful time for all parties. It will take a very long time for a child or young person to be able to trust the carer’s and their family and be able to feel settled in their new home as they may feel like an outsider and do not belong here.
Perhaps most of the time the only solution to living happily is by getting divorce. There is not a specific reason of why people choose to divorce, but base on Psychologist studies there is a many reasons of why people choose to separate their life after sharing it together for many years. Some of the reasons of why people get divorce are: • Lack of Communication • Domestic Violence • Alcohol and Substance Abuse The breakdown of a family can have many repercussions on the individual members with the least involvement. The children involved in a divorce are often the most impacted victims of a divorce. Children with divorced parents are often left feeling neglected by the parent that has chosen to move out, unloved, and often times burdened with feelings of guilt.