French & American Cultural Courtesies

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French children will have acquired the basic social courtesies by the age of four (Platt),meanwhile, American children at the age of four are, “little monsters” giving their parents little to no privacy when entertaining, being rude to strangers or even elders, and exemplifying the idea that it’s there way or the highway. In Raymonde Carroll’s Cultural Misunderstandings Carroll recounts a time where she is engaged in an interesting conversation with an American, and the Americans child comes over and interrupts the conversation in a rather intrusive manner. Instead of disciplining him and teaching him manners, her friend turns and listens to the child, apologizes for the inconvenience and tells Carroll he will be back in a few minutes. He comes back and they attempt to continue their conversation-only to be interrupted by the child again.(Pg. 41) Carroll goes on to tell stories of similar situations-social events being tampered on by American children. In Carroll’s eyes this proved to her that Americans have no manners, but an American hearing the same story would likely believe that the father reacted like any caring parent would, and would have not taken the slightest offence to the fathers actions, or anything a child does for that matter. This is likely due to the differences in French and American social customs, and the difference in the expectation to raise your child in a certain manor. Here in America, parents raise their children as if they were a plant, watering and nourishing it each day and making sure it gets the proper amount of sunlight, hardly ever disrupting its natural growth pattern. Americans take pride in raising individuals. While the French feel as though they have an, “Unwritten contract with the State” (Platt) they feel there duty is to require certain behaviors and set certain goals so that their child will be a credit to France and to

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