This causes kids to try to recreate “what was”. (DeBord, 1997, p.6) They will act like their parents never got a divorce, or they will try to get their parents back together. Kids do this because they feel at fault; they may believe something they did or said caused a parent to leave. All of these things happen to children during a divorce, it is a very hard thing for kids to cope with. The emotions in adolescents also suffer from divorce.
These are just three of many factors which can negatively affect children caught in between the divorce of two parents. The parental problems before a divorce have tremendous damaging power in children's lives. This is because divorce typically “crystallizes rather than creates long-standing family problems.”(Marriages and Families...p.476 Furstengber,Taitler) This means the problems in the family are made clear and have been occurring for the majority of the marriage. Parents in predivorce families are less involved in their children's education. (Sun,2001) This could be because the parents are so stressed out with the marital problems leading to their divorce that they neglect the academic needs of their children such as helping with homework and supporting their self confidence.
Divorce can also lead children to view marriage as a negative event rather than a positive one. A recent study argues, “sad memories from the past and observations from the present build to a dramatic crescendo as young people from divorced homes confront the issues of love, sex, and lasting commitment.” (Wallerstein et al, 2001). As divorce becomes more common and many people choose to avoid marriage, the
Fights and abuse that occur during the marriage can effect children, just like the ending separation can (Woodward, Fergusson, & Belsky, 2000). The steps that parents take, throughout the process of a divorce can change how the children are effected by the break up. However, even in a story book divorce, parental separation will probably have adverse effects on the children (Woodward, Fergusson, & Belsky, 2000). Studies show that children who come from divorced families are less affectionate and less positive (Clarke-Stewart & Brentano, 2006). Some of the adverse effects on children going through a divorce may involve behavioral problems, rebellion, anger, hurt feelings, abandonment fears, poor grades and stress.
Family circumstances can be a major cause of poverty. This begins when the parents are unmotivated and unwilling to show his or her child that working hard is the only way to succeed and have an improved life style. Parents in middle-class homes may also contribute to poverty by giving their child too much and never making them work or figure things out for themselves. Another family related matter for people that live in poverty is coming from dysfunctional families. The children of those damaged families may have been a victim of mental and physical abuse; consequently, those children now have grown into adults and he or she may have low self-esteem.
It is one of the aspects of life that are best left not discussed in many social circles. There is a fairly even split in opinions of the parents and teachers on whether a child should fail a test, assignment or grade if they are unable to accomplish the goals set out by the various school boards. Failing grades can be seen as punishment, cause mental anguish and negative repercussions. Some teachers and parents though, feel that failing students when necessary help develop better problem solving skills, teach student life skills as well as growth and positive behaviors towards failing. Many parents and teachers feel that failing can be detrimental to a child’s psychological development.
Perhaps most of the time the only solution to living happily is by getting divorce. There is not a specific reason of why people choose to divorce, but base on Psychologist studies there is a many reasons of why people choose to separate their life after sharing it together for many years. Some of the reasons of why people get divorce are: • Lack of Communication • Domestic Violence • Alcohol and Substance Abuse The breakdown of a family can have many repercussions on the individual members with the least involvement. The children involved in a divorce are often the most impacted victims of a divorce. Children with divorced parents are often left feeling neglected by the parent that has chosen to move out, unloved, and often times burdened with feelings of guilt.
(DeFrain&Asay,2007,p.286) This may be because relationships that involve children from a prior partner are known to have and increased risk of dissolution. (Higginbotham,2010,p.37) For many years society’s view has been that divorce was not only traumatic for children but contributed to negative life outcomes for the majority of those whose parents divorced. The pain experienced by children at the beginning of a divorce is composed of a sense of vulnerability as the family unravels a grief reaction to the loss of their intact family, a feeling of intense anger and loss of power. A parent consulting with a therapist is helpful during this period of great turmoil. Preschool children, ages three to five, have an
This is common and unfair for the parents to expect this from their child. It can make the child feel that they have failed. Even at full potential, no body is completely perfect. Parents can see other parents doing this and may look down on them, most parents do not see themselves pressuring their children. Many children feel that they are pressured about their sports more than their schoolwork.
This again can have bad consequences for the child, like low self-esteem, bad behavior and sat on the edge, drug addiction. (BP) A small family will also suffer from family-death. No one lives forever, so being an only child will certainly have its disadvantage. Families consisting of 4 siblings can support and be there for each other when losing a family member. If the child were to suffer from a tragic accident, losing both of its parents, the child wouldn’t have siblings to turn to or be with, and today it’s not given that you have your grandparents, since people tend to get children when they have passed their thirties.