Summary of the book This book follows the neglect and abuse of Katie and is told in story format for parts of the book. Hughes gives a commentary at the end of each chapter on his thoughts of the issues of how each stage of abuse affects not only Katie’s development but also how it was affecting her mother Sally as well. After Katie is placed into foster care the story details the two different sides that Katie shows her foster parents. She goes from being a happy child when things go her way into an aggressive and mean child who wants to get even by destroying other peoples possessions. Katie’s caseworker struggles to find a foster home for her and to find the right therapist to help her with her lack of attachment to anyone.
In her poem “Mothers”, Nikki Giovanni talks about the relationship she have with her mother and the struggles her mother went through. The poet’s implied claim is the importance of mothers and how much they affect our lives today by the good and bad values they teach us. Nikki thought of her mother as a beautiful woman, but she put so much faith and trust in men. Part of her mother’s struggle was waiting for Nikki’s father to come home “she was very deliberately waiting perhaps for my father to come home from his night job “. This struggle Giovanni’s mother taught to her so being educated about that, Giovanni teaches the ethics of being a Good man to her son; so he will grow and become a good man and see the struggle being a bad one can cause women.
In the study, the inconsistent parenting style caused infants to cling anxiously to their mothers in unfamiliar settings, and cry when she left the room. While the mother was gone, the infants tended to not explore their surroundings, but act with indifference or hostility upon their mother’s return. Many of these infants continued to cry inconsolable after being picked up by their mothers. When infants, then children, are exposed to inconsistent parenting, they become insecure and anxious about close relationships as they grow older. When these people are involved in romantic relationships, they are clingy and unsure if their partner will remain with them.
While many single mothers worry too much or regret decisions during their children childhood they are satisfied with the result and the out come of there children by the actions their children make after they grown out of their childhood In “I stand here ironing” a mother depicts her first child to have a bad early childhood by making the wrong decision not by choice but simply what got handed to them in a urban world. “She was a miracle to me but when she was eight months old I had to leave her daytimes with the woman downstairs to whom she was no miracle at all, for I worked or looked for work and for Emily’s father who “could no longer endure sharing want with us.”” Narrator did not want leave her child with the downstairs neighbor, but to provide the little she could to her child she made scarifies due to been a one parent family. She did all she could even with the father figure leaving to irrelevant discussion on his part. When she sees the development of her child thru the years she gets warmth never felt. “Now suddenly she was Somebody, and as imprisoned in her difference as she had in anonymity.” In the narrators point of view her child was an outcast, a nobody, but when she got the call from her daughter it seem the sun finally started to shine in her daughter path, she was free.
As each one of us grows it seems that the courage that comes along with a child’s innocence is lost. Crash is a movie that tugs at its audience’s emotions. It was a very controversial movie but shows the love that is in relationships and that children tend to take care of their parents. When becoming a parent their child helps them grow and be all that they can be as they support their children to be all they can be. A parent learns just as much from their children as children learns from their parents.
Janie grew to learn how to go through struggles and overcome them. Janie was affected growing up like her looking for love. When someone looks for love they have to think about what they want or need from a partner in order to be happy. Zola wrote “Janie had no chance to know things, so she had to ask.”(Hurston, p.21) So when marriage or love was brought up she
It is a lasting psychological connectedness between human beings as described by a psychologist named John Bowlby. Attachment also is a learned ability where emotional connections between a parent and child are nurtured over time through mutual interaction, and is based on trust. Characteristics of attachment are the following: "Safe Haven" is when a child feels afraid or threatened in any matter, they will return to the caregiver for comfort and soothing. The second characteristic is "secure base". Secure Base is when a caregiver provides a dependable and secure base for the child to explore the world.
Aibileen works for Elizabeth, so Aibileen has to take care of her daughter, Mae Mobley. Aibileen and Mae Mobley have a different relationship than other babies she has taken care of. It is a different relationship because Aibileen has a seed of bitterness planted inside her after Treelore, her son, died. In an article by Jackie Crosby, it mentions the love Aibileen had for her babies, “There's Aibileen, the wise and gentle soul whose heart breaks every time one of the white babies she loves so much grows up to ‘become just like they mama’” (Crosby). So she teaches Mae Mobley something she has never taught any of her other children because she wants to avoid Mae Mobley turning out like her mother, Elizabeth.
In most cases, parents provide their children with love and compassion, and teach them valuable life lessons. This causes one to become dependent on their parents, especially for this level of care. In most cases, this is a desirable situation. However, in Marina Nemat’s case, her parents, specifically her mother, were cruel and indifferent towards her. Her mother hardly recognized her, and subjected her to severe punishments, such as threatening to leave her, as well as locking
This resulted in her getting involved with an older man at the tender age of twelve. Dreaming to be a mother from that young age, she finally adopted two young girls, Marie and Jeanette, in the hope of becoming a loving and nurturing mother to them. However, wounds of their past conflicted with Hogan’s dreams of the present. She soon discovered the pain and trauma her daughters went through as abused children. “With our oldest daughter, all the pain fell outward, onto others, whom she would hit or abuse, but for Jeanette, pain came to an inward point” (84).