Superficially, all seems well because his family lives a comfortable existence. Emotionally, however, his family has missed his emotional support for years. His wife, Helen, gave up “trying to compete with his work years ago.” All of his children grew up in a so-called normal family with a father and mother. At his funeral, though, they do not have enough memories about him to say a proper eulogy. Phil himself was “overweight” and unhealthy, obsessed with work and negligent with his personal life.
Su-Jen’s father, Hing-Wun, sacrifices everything for his family, and he struggles at the same time; these struggles continue in his whole life. Hing-Wun works so hard in the Dragon café to make money for his family, and he does not spend a single penny on himself; but his great efforts do not acquire a better future for himself. Even though he keeps working like a horse in his seventies for his family, his wife still complains about him and does not appreciate his attitudes towards life. Hing-Wun is such a kind man who always considers about his wife and he tells Su-Jen to think of and understand her mother’s situation. Therefore, Hing-Wun’s struggle against his hard work for his family is in vain.
He cries himself to sleep each and every night because he has no one to look up to in his life. Tyson thinks quite a lot of his mother and she is very special to him, but she is just not the masculine strength that he needs. His mother is always reassuring him that he is a handsome, young man and will one day find a companion. That is truly the least of Tyson’s concerns when he has a mother to look after and provide for. The only companion that he really wants is his father so that he can teach him how to hunt properly.
There is nothing he can do about it until Monday, leaving him the whole weekend to contemplate his possibilities. This situation makes his reminisce about his own fathers passing of cancer harder because all he remembers is how much pain he suffered and the guilt that he wasn’t there while he was dying. When he mentions this to his mother her reaction is the most important quote in the film, “It doesn’t matter how he died, your father’s death was not the sum of his life, it doesn’t matter how life ends it matters how it was.” Nick’s life had been carefree, his work as a photographer had enabled him to travel around the world with no responsibilities. This changed when he had come back home to help out his mother and as he mentions, “I hung round cose I was a bit worried about mum, I even brought a place as an investment for the future. I thought I would live in it for awhile before I go back overseas.” This quote lets us know that in truth Nick is really looking for someone to share his life with and offer his him support whilst dealing with his cancer.
Yes, I think that the company man was a workaholic and didn’t have anytime for his family and that’s why his children were always silent around him and him and his wife had a divorce. Being a workaholic doesn’t just affect your family, but also yourself too. I think as time went on he was noticing that his family didn’t want to be around him anymore and Phil was getting depressed over time. That’s why he became over weight and died at an early age. No one was really surprised at this because he was a heart attack natural, but still
Also, he is ashamed of allowing his family to see him the way he is. Besides the couple of nurses that take care of him, he has no one and nothing to live for. Joe Bunham, now injured with no limbs, suffered through the pain that no 20 year old should be going through. The war altered his life to a point where one questions the point of living. What happened to him during the war mentally changed his view on what his future should really be.
The relationship of a young man and his friends and family is more then important. In evidence, many men join the group and dies young since they are constantly facing dangers and dies they leave behind them a family who cared for them, all this happens because in the family most of the time a young male didn’t have the male figure in the house and because of that ‘’Poor self-esteem may lead boys and men to hyper-masculine activity.’’ (P.285) Plus the mother is absent because she become the ‘’breadwinner’’(p.13) when the male dies. This is why black men are not privileged and this is injustice for them not to have what they need the most, it brings also some sadness when the father of a young boy is in jail because he is or was a danger to the city and the kid gradually losses his confidence and when years passes he is also misguided and he brings sadness for the only parent and his siblings. In addition, ‘’Many of these men were ridiculed, blamed, and rejected by their families for failing to fulfill the provider role’’(p. 206), they often do fell rejected and embarrassed when after being in jail many men would not get a job. When the father is absent young males have lower level of confidence and less friends, they also search for that father comfort outside the house witch is difficult to get when in the society
D’Amato was mad at himself for such things he’s done as middle-age man. He was not fighting in life to get that extra “inch”. Tony D’Amato informs his players, “When you get old in life, things get taken away from you. That is a part of life. That only happens when you start losing stuff” (D’Amato: Any Given Sunday).
He hates that he became like his father, an alcoholic, he wants to stop and be better for his family and instead of following in his father’s footsteps he wants to be better and make his own. I studied him while interacting with his family and his wife seems distant from him and kind of scared to anger him. His children are also scared of him and his ten year old son seems to be angry with him and has barely any respect for him. His two year old daughter, though still a baby, seems scared of him too. He tries to talk to them normally but fails because of his past
The forgetful mail carrier is a 66 years old man who becomes so forgetful. His wife is afraid to leave him alone even at home. When he was 60 years old, Hans took an early retirement because his previous 5 years he had not been able to carry out his duties adequately. He did constantly mistakes delivering the mail. He gradually given up his hobbies and had become more quit.