Then, when people called her names or treated her like a prostitute, she would become extremely aggressive and yell and curse. Her hostile self-harm behaviors were shown when she was punching the door. She was angry with her boyfriend and could not express it well, so she felt the need to punch the door repeatedly. This can also be instrumental aggression because she is expressing other feelings through breaking the door. Overall, I believe that Tamela’s self-injury was instrumental aggression.
The act of rape itself is brutal, repulsive, and can leave one scared for the rest of their life. A rapist takes their victims feeling of protection and dignity. When such a cruel act like this occurs and results in a child, it is not an act of love, or even negligence, but rather, that act of violence made flesh. If a woman decides to keep that child, she will always be torn between the love of a mother for her child and the remembrance of the man who brutalized her. Women who are alcoholics and/or drug addicts become pregnant as well.
In this phase the victim struggles with the realization of what has happened, that they have been raped, and they slowly begin to accept it. However this makes their feelings turn into revenge and anger toward the rapist, or sometimes they may become angry with themselves. They often may begin to question how they could have let it happen and most often place the blame on themselves. These feelings tend to die down however most seem to hold them all on the inside afterwards causing a lot of psychological pain. Generally, rape survivors report feeling powerless, shock, guilt, depression, anxiety, shame, embarrassment, and disbelief during this phase.
He started taking shots at my self-esteem by saying that no one else would want to be with me because of x,y,z. C.) I would be lying to you if I said that during this time of my life I didn't fight back. I was constantly fighting back with all of the mistakes he had made and how they way things were now was all his fault. I tried hard to make sure that he felt guilty about what he had done and how it made me feel and I blamed him for our break up. I remember one night when we were fighting he told me I was a stupid bitch, I fired back with whatever name came to mind at that moment.
There are plenty of teens caught up in these dangerous situations, and like older women, the teenage girls feel they are somehow responsible for the abuse they suffer at the hands of the men whom they love and who supposedly love them. This phenomenon is common among abused women. They make excuses for the beatings they take and their abusers insist it will never happen again. And yet it does the cycle of violence never
I’ll start off with General Strain theory, it states that strain can be caused by failure to achieve positively valued stimuli, the loss of positively valued stimuli, and presentation of negative stimuli. In Compelled to Crime, the African American battered women were overwhelmed with strain, in response they acted out by committing an array of different crimes. The reasoning behind this could be because of their low levels of social support. The African American battered women did not have a lot of support; they were most of the time cut off from their families and friends. Another example of how strain applies to these women can be seen in Agnew’s writings when he said “Data suggest that child abuse and neglect negative school experiences, chronic unemployment, and residence in deprived communities are important causes sate anger and that such anger explains much of the effective of strains on crime.” (Agnew, Chp.
By this unacceptable and scurrilous treatment of parents, it is found to be hard getting these individuals to therapy (Sperry 1995). Individuals experience intense discomfort in emotionally close relationships. There are odd patterns of thinking happening in their minds and the outsiders such as normal people see them as being weird, crazy or even retarded. Individuals can find themselves persistently accusing their girlfriend/boyfriend or spouse of cheating. They will question their partner’s whereabouts, faithfulness, and intentions (Tomb 1992).
While others tend to hate themselves and inflict pain on their own bodies, until they feel as though they punished themselves enough. Sadly, there are many people that are trapped in this mind set, one of which is a friend of mine. A beautiful young woman, one who you would never think would be cutting herself. My friend Sasha and I were talking one day, and in that conversation she told me something that I found very disturbing. She told me that she had been abusing herself, and then she showed me the affects of the abuse.
This was a label attached by men saying that women were getting out of control because times were changing where women were allowed to have opinions. They did this to try and control women. Symptoms of the said ‘illness’ were nervousness, faintness, insomnia, shortness of breath, loss of appetite for food or sex and more. In today’s society none of these add up to a certain illness, hysteria was just a way to keep women in line when men didn’t want to hear what they had to say. It was very sexist and feminists such as Elaine Showalter believed it was nonsense and is very against it.
As a result of Jane's tantrums, quick temper, and lack of self-control, society classifies her as an immoral person. She speaks up for her herself when she knows she is not supposed to, and her family believes that she acts more like a "rebel" than a young woman. Her spontaneous and violent actions go against conventionality and she must suffer for being so free-spirited. Miss Abbot believes: "God will punish her: He might strike her in the midst of her tantrums"; (15). Jane's tantrums are not customary or acceptable, so during those precise moments of