In Moore’s “Which is More That I Can Say”, the role-reversal of the search of identity reinforces the image of the dynamic of fear that both mother and daughter have. Mrs. Mallon’s presence in the short story is described as something repelling and invasive towards her daughter’s decisions in life. Abby, having shaped her identity privately tries to alienate herself from her mother’s stronger character in order to have proper control of her life. Mrs. Mallon showing a risk taking behavior, sees her daughter as “a women who expects too much” due to her performance of actions in life. At the end due to the inability of Abby to succeed in her liberty, she witnesses lack of strength and the fear her mother has at the Blarney Stone.
The reason Uhmma acts this way with her kids is because she wants them not to be stressed and weak.Uhmma said in the beginning of the when she was talking to Young Ju, “Look at my rough hands. Do you think I always had hands like these? Do you want to end up like this?”(18). Meaning she doesnt want her to have that kind of life style. While this book progessed so did Uhmma, i feel that she new that Apa wasnt good but until the end when he turned on his own daughter she finally new that its
Throughout her experiences in the novel, Jane comes to realize that she struggles with losing her self-sufficiency by sacrificing all for love. As she achieves independence she discovers that love can be found on equal footing without losing oneself in the process. Jane Eyre begins with the character Jane narrating her own story in a way that shows her innermost thoughts and feelings. We are brought into the story as readers and made aware of Jane's strong desire for a sense of love from her family in her aunt and her cousins. Her need for this is not only just to feel cared for and nurtured, but to feel a sense of belonging.
Uphold her mother’s traditions, but her mother’s memory and identity. This is similar to agree to disagree, even though she has been guilty remains not to go back and didn’t finished college she fears that she has already failed to uphold her mother’s dreams. An-Mei Hsu: Scar In this vignette, the author writes, “So I knew Popo wanted me to forget my mother on purpose, and this is how I came to remember nothing of her” (Tan 42). This quote shows that her mother was ignored. This ties to balance individuality and closeness because An-Mei is easily allowing the balance of connection and separateness fall apart with her mother.
According to Farrell, the story is being told by her mother and suggests that Dee may not really be the bad person that everyone claims she is (179). Farrell goes on to explain that the perceptions told by Mama are filtered through her mind and Mama’s views of her daughters are not to be accepted uncritically (179). Farrell’s approach to this piece was to try and take the reader to a different level of understanding and offer some other ways to view the heritage of both Mama and Dee. Issue In Susan Farrell’s essay, many questions are brought up about the interpretation of the story “Everyday Use”. One question Farrell brings up during the essay is, what is the true understanding and relationship between Dee and her mother?
Girl: the Cultural Conflict “Girl” written by Jamaica Kincaid, an Antiguan writer, narrates a mother’s advice to her daughter. Arguably, it depicts the mother’s inner conflict and the conflict between the mother and the daughter from two arguments. To some extent, these two conflicts can be understood as a cultural conflict between Britain and Antigua. First of all, the story uses a second person point of view to render readers know more about the mother’s inner conflict and motivation for offering the daughter advice. Despite her doubt about the usefulness of the advice, the mother insists on teaching the daughter how to act properly within the British culture, as she is responsible for making the daughter a good Antiguan woman.
The speaker’s thoughts and phrases are on occasion interrupted with italics used to indicate the possible inner thoughts or spoken voice of whomever is being spoken to in the story. Line after line of instruction invokes a vision of a small child struggling to follow a hurried, exasperated and perfectionist mother through the activities of everyday life. She is a good mother with many lessons to teach and cares enough to guide her daughter into societal acceptance. She is also a selfish mother who is overly concerned with appearances. The lack of paragraphing and indentation gives the work a sense of being rushed to finish before this day becomes tomorrow.
I believe the author is trying to show us by using her life story to explain that we sometimes are blinded by what we think that we really need (but in fact we just want it), that we cannot see beyond our current desire because due to the fact that we think about it in a sugarcoated perspective. This, I believe, is what the author is trying to tell us in that it is better to heed advice from those who know more, or have more experience. In the author’s situation, her mother knew the boarding school’s true colors by seeing the outcomes of those who went before as well as the outcomes of her older child’s experiences. When Zitkala arrives at the place of “big red apples”, the author is telling us she didn’t like it, cried a lot, and wanted to be back with her mother. In this way I believe the author continues to show that we always will reap the consequences that are a result of the decisions we make without heeding the warning signs given by those wiser and older than us.
Yet, when she begs her mother to go to school her mother replies, “Only one skill. And it’s this: tahamul. Endure” (18). She is scolded and put down for dreaming about an education. Khaled Hosseini does a great job in demonstrating the restriction on educational values by making Nana’s character so harsh on Miriam to uphold traditional values.
“Touch Sparks Love”: an interpretation using tools of interpersonal communication (perception and non verbal communication) The essay “Touch Sparks Love” was written by a mother about her daughter Debbie and the struggles they endured in trying to understand each other, and Debbie’s journey of self discovery and development of a positive self concept. In analyzing the essay, I was able to make fact based judgments after reading the mothers words, as well as inferences based on my own opinions of what was written. I was able to determine aspects and elements of perception and its influences on ones reality as well as the strength of non verbal communication and how much it factors in on ones daily life. Perception is a part of how well or even how little we actually understand one another. It has been proven that what we actually completely understand about others in so limited that it has a huge effect on perception and interpersonal communication.