Why Am I Single

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WHY AM I SINGLE? 40 points to ponder Edward Obi For Ifeoma Anwuta Acknowledgement I thank God for giving me this gift. A big thank you goes to Chris Elechi whose lessons resonate endlessly in my mind. I must acknowledge my parents, Eugene and Boma Obi, literary connoisseurs, whose cellars I plundered to get knowledge. I also thank Femi and Tammy Gborjoh for their hospitality when I needed it the most. Introduction The pull towards marriage is one that nature and nurture feeds relentlessly. As it is, most cultures have the institution of marriage ingrained in their society. Some of us find ourselves wanting to have that special someone in our lives. This desire is further heightened by the success of others in getting such special partners. By age 30, some singles start fretting, some decide that being single is a lifestyle while others start asking the question, “Why am I still single? This book gives simple pointers that people usually overlook. It also provides insights into the question and tries to change the focus of the reader, making him/her to do some introspection before facing the question again. That way, a faster and clearer answer will come forth. One common mistake many singles make is that they mix up the issues of being the best you can be with changing yourself because of another person. While the latter is discouraged, the former is strongly encouraged. You should not change to please someone else or pretend to be who you are not. Instead, you should change to be a better you. Do something better, expand the range of who you are. The points following will help the reader to do this positively and with less friction. There are some spiritual insights and pointers in these questions that force the reader to consider that angle. Today’s social culture, despite its secularity, is not bereft of religion. Therefore we will do well not
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