The narrator states the mother’s resentment of Connie’s beauty because “her looks were gone and that was why she was always after Connie.”[451]. Connie doesn’t make the situation between the two any better by instigating her mother with curt answers and rude responses. “Her parents and her sister were going to a barbecue at an aunt’s house and Connie said ‘no’, she wasn’t interested, rolling her eyes to let her mother know exactly what she thought.”[453]. the only time Connie fully admits that she truly did love her mother was when she was crying in the phone for her. Connie’s father is a quiet bystander when it came to his wife and daughter heated arguments.
Finding a gentleman caller for Laura becomes Amanda’s driving force because she places too much importance on it “It’s terrible, dreadful, disgraceful that poor little sister has never received a gentleman caller” (1305). Amanda does not bother to ask Tom and Laura what they want out of life. Instead, she makes up her mind – her illusion - about what is best for them and then expects obedience. Laura never asks to go
Her dad took her away from the hospital without paying and soon after her mom was letting her cook again, as she called it, “Getting right back into the saddle.” At such a young age Jeannette didn’t take any anger out on her parents and soon took interest to fire. Soon after that thought the family had to pack their bags and leave again and do the “skedaddle” as their parents liked to call it. The parents were actually running away from bill collectors and guys that their dad owed money to. The father was an alcoholic and luckily wasn’t able to be one often because of the low money situation. However he was able to get a job almost anywhere, usually in small towns for side jobs, because of how convincing he could be.
And that is understandable, who would like a pair of underwear full of urine in their face. The angry woman sticks a pair of knickers into the face of her daughter, because the daughter was not able to hold back herself from urinating. Therefore the angry woman will probably not take her daughter out in the future: “”I can never take you anywhere,” said the woman hoarsely, and shoved the child away from her”. All this happens while Sheena’s boys are playing and hanging over the bridge rail “they had noticed nothing”. She has raised her kids well and she knows how to get them to do the things she wants, for example when she wants them to come with her and leave the zoo.
The way he said this to Tasha makes her have this sense of false hope in that her parents are not separated, they are just “living apart.” This quickly unfolds at school when one of the girls loses a game to Tasha and says “I just let you win because my mother told me that everyone is suppost to be nice to you because your parents are getting separated and everything.” (p.7) This confuses Tasha, and makes her question what her father and mother said to her and if they were telling her the truth or not. In the second part of the book the lies are not as apparent as the lies are in part one and in part three. In part two the lies are more a cove up of what is really happening in this family’s life. Such as Rodney’s mother, who feels that lying to herself about her family’s social class makes her look better as a person. This is evident when Rodney says “Never mind that the shoe box she chose to make your sister’s diorama conspicuously bears the label of her only Italian pumps.”(p.88) She is trying to make herself feel better
Using her high social status Mrs. Birling made sure that the charity turned Eva away, which, as a consequence pushed Eva to desperation. Had it been her own daughter, or even a women of a higher class, it is likely that Mrs. Birling would have considered her case more sympathetically and offered any help available. Mr. Birling too is a very class conscious person. Even when speaking to Gerald, who is a slightly higher class, Mr. Birling feels he has to prove himself. It appears that Gerald’s mother is not keen on the marriage due to the Birling’s status.
This is accentuated by the fact that Mama was denied an education because her school closed down. “After 2nd grade the school closed down.” Dee was fortunate that Mama gave her the opportunity, but her superior intellect serves only to detach her from her mother and her sister. Dee uses her intellect to patronize and almost intimidate others. As a child Dee read to her mother and sister “Without pity, to shove us away at just the moment, like dimwits, we seemed about to understand.” This clearly conveys how Dee was so detached from her family. She “shoves them away” when they are about to reach the same level of understanding as she does.
But we have to realise now that it’s just society’s norm in this day and age to have the hour glass figure and not ‘let yourself go’. At that age I was terrified to get without my parents but these girls are willing to give up seeing their parents again if they are able to fit into a bikini for summer. Since when has it been so bad to be yourself instead of trying to be someone you’re not? Sandra Laing from the biography/drama ‘Skin’ realised this hard way after several efforts of trying and failing to be a part of the white community that was neglecting her for the majority of her life. Growing up my mum told me not be some one that you’re not and if your happy the way you are than why change.
She would give her child to servants to hold and never cared for her. When Johanna’s first son was born, she was delighted. Unfortunately for Johanna, her first son died at a young age. Catherine felt resentment towards her brother and did not care for his death. Johanna then pushed insults on Catherine constantly.
mother regrets leaving house because she wants to settle down but she is also getting sick moving around and has given up hope starting new life. * at start blackberries represent new hope but at end reflect mothers mood and life, as if it was wasted * depersonalisation major theme drifters. it mainly affects mother. she lacks identity in poem and continuously referred to as "she". tom, father, only person who has identity in poem.