How are these stressors affecting Jennifer’s self-concept and self-esteem? Jennifer’s self-esteem has been lower because she doesn’t see her husband much and she has suffer the loss of a baby. When you have a miscarriage it is a blow to your self-esteem because it’s supposed to be the one thing that every woman can do. You need a few things to make it throw a miscarriage your husband for support and she doesn’t have his support as much as she may need it because she has to commute to and from work. Next after a miscarriage you suffer from wanting to replace the baby you lost with becoming pregnant again Jennifer is under great pressure just
Gilman shows this when the woman of the story says “I meant to be such a help to John, such a real rest and comfort, and here I am a comparative burden already”. She also shows that woman at this time didn’t really do anything for themselves, “Nobody would believe what an effort it is to do what little I am able - to dress and entertain, and order things”. The woman in the story is believing in the social norm and what her husband belittles her to be. She feels that she is a burden to her husband because she dislikes the wallpaper and continues to complain about how much it bothers her. He refuses to change it making her blame herself for not being able to cope with the “dull” and “flamboyant” yellow wallpaper.
Her mother on the other hand, means so much to her, she doesn't want her to be alone. She decides to desert her dream, she still lives with Grandma, much like a dependant child, yet she knows Grandma would suffer from great loneliness without her” (Bloom, Harold. “List of characters in Lost in Yonkers. p67-68). Bella’s guilt caused by her mother’s fear of loneliness has left her short of any male relations.
John is very much aware of his wife, the narrator’s mental insecurity. Simultaneously, he embraces a conscious ignorance of his wife, telling her that it would not benefit the situation “if I [she] had ... less opposition and more society and stimulus” (Gilman 1). The reader can assume that John is initially embarrassed and disillusioned by his wife’s illness. This is reiterated as he (“a physician of high standing”) “assures friends and relatives that there is really nothing the matter with one but temporary nervous depression” (Gilman 1). In this instance, John’s social standing as a husband and a doctor conspire against the narrator’s enunciation of her illness.
At the beginning of the novel it is revealed to the reader that Mariam does not feel loved and accepted by her mother, her conflict with Rasheed leaves her feeling worthless and insignificant. Ironically; she ultimately finds love and acceptance with Aziza who like her is a “harami” and has been conceived out of wed lock.
The author describes Elisa’s feeling as, “Everything goes right down into your fingertips. You watch your fingers work…” (p. 633). Once the tinker had left, Elisa’s mental stimulation and self-fulfillment had left with him too. It is clear that she is unsatisfied with the relationship she has with her husband. Before the headed out for dinner, Elisa started to dress nicer and look for feminine.
Unfortunately the only way he knows how to help her it by treating her as a medical patient or as an object and not as a person who needed love, not just care. By doing this he aids to her mental decent, the last thing he meant to do. The evidence as to how much he truly loved his wife is shown at the end when he finally breaks in on his wife, and is so shocked and overcome by sadness that he faints. Unfortunately this point in the story also illustrates how far gone the narrator is, moving past her husband without recognizing him. In fact she even complains about “that man” and having to “creep over him” as she makes her
This gradually puts a distance between you and your friends. One reason behind the weakening of relationships, is because people do not know how to approach comfort their friend with cancer (V 5/17/12). Once you start to lose contact with people, you gradually lose friends and this was the case for Suleika, she had lost a number of friendships because they did not know how to treat her. She explains that even though she lost a number of friends, she learned which friends she can really rely on and not only that but made stronger friendships during her chemotherapy (V 5/17/12). Cancer causes a young adult to lose many friendship but at the same time build stronger relationships with the people that sticks by
Low self-esteem “Kate is 21 years of age and has a very poor self- confidence and fact she hates the way she looks. As a result, Kate has such low self-esteem that it prevents her from using health care services. Kate’s mother is concerned about her daughter’s health and wellbeing’’ In Health and social care, health care professionals are required to empower service users and raise the self esteem of those who need it. Low self-esteem is when an individual is not confident of one's self and feels inferior constantly looking for approval from everyone else but him/herself. Discriminatory practices can result in a lowering of self esteem, it can leave the service user feeling low and not knowing their self-worth.