Neff also addresses the fact that there are people who are against people moving in together before marriage. She states that it’s a personal decision people make because living together can have lasting positive effects that can later solidify a marriage. The author also states while living together may be valuable for some relationships, it can also be the source of an unhappy ending for others. Even though people love each other and spend a lot of time together, the question still remains, “Can you live together?” I agree with the author’s views on living together before marriage because I am currently sharing a space with my boyfriend. Living together before marriage helps a couple establish roles and responsibilities in the household.
Similarly, source 3 suggests that women should know their place and not seek for ‘anything higher’. This could be referring to women wanting to be able to voice their opinion by voting or at least having a say in decisions regarding their family, however they were not seen as clever enough to do so. On the other hand, source 1 says that ‘to soften each other’ a man and a woman have to ‘unite’, which could perhaps mean marriage and children. The phrase ‘soften each other’ portrays a couple as equal partners with different, but equally as important, features that make a marriage work. In the same way, source 2 says that because of the differences ‘it is impossible to
Abstract This paper will explore certain things that couples deal with while in couples counseling that will help counseling more effective for couples. The goals of couples counseling, dealing with anger, theories of couples counseling and ethical issues in couples counseling will be discussed in this paper. This paper will also help determine if the efforts that each couple but into counseling will be effective enough that they will be able to resolve whatever issues that they may have had in the past or the future. Couples therapy or couple’s counseling is a useful way to help couples who are experiencing difficulties such as repetitive arguments, feelings of distance or emptiness in the relationship, pervasive feelings of anger, resentment and or dissatisfaction or lack of interest in affection or in a physical relationship with one another. The Goals of couples counseling should be established mostly by the couples themselves.
In life people tend to use broad generalizations or stereo types to describe what someone does or is supposed to do with out giving them a chance to be their own voice of virtue . As Jeff Klein states in his work “its nice to have a girlfriend who’s got your back”, obviously you can see in a world full of stereo typical people there would be a great sense of confusion because in the stereo typical relationship the man will usually assess physical altercations and will protect his spouse at all costs. As you can see that is not what happens in this case Jeff’s girlfriend has been taking self defense courses to learn how to defend herself in the real world if need be. On their vacation she put these skills to the test when a drunken native to the city of Prague approaches her boyfriend jeff. Screaming and shouting at him jeff really does not know how to handle the situation at all and this is where the self defense courses came into play.
Each one of these ingredients are needed to make sound decisions that are not only intelligent, but most importantly, wise decision that will have positive impact on people’s lives. In a scenario whereas a teenage girl who has a boyfriend who is wanting protected sex in this case is the only reason he is with her while she is in love with but her boyfriend is pressuring her to have only “protected” sex, there are four possible elements of wise judgment which can be used effectively only to assess the situation and create a capable solution. Factual Knowledge about Matters of life The factual knowledge about matters of life “which includes knowledge about the human nature plus the interpersonal relations and finally social norms.” In the previous mentioned case of the teenage girl whose in love with her boyfriend who wants to have sex with her and promises the sex will only be “protected sex,” this young lady has to understand the results are of protected sex in which can be limited, like many thing and entities of life. Sex is must not 100% protected because things of nature and other aspects may arise during intercourse. For instance, couples may have experienced an incident where the condom broke or leaked during intercourse.
If the husband begins to stop doing some of his duties the wife will either need to pick up the load in order for the relationship to continue functioning or will begin to stop fulfilling some of her duties and the relationship will fall apart. “Functionalists say that we need to look at both structure (how the parts of society fit together to make the whole) and function (what each part does, how it contributes to society)” (Henslin, 2012). If we look at marriage in the respect of functional analysis each person has to fit together to make a whole and they have to work together to function. Functional analysis is a good way to look at marriage and divorce rates because when two people get married they fit together well and work together to function properly and when one fails to work the marriage ends in
Occasional arguments are good for friendship relationships. The trick is to learn how to do it fairly. Occasional arguments help us to learn how to better understand each other, gives us room to freely express ourselves, and they don’t allow problems about certain situations to build up one after another. An argument is defined as a reason or set of reasons given with the aim of persuading others that an action, idea, or thought is right or wrong. In order to have a friendship that works or is healthy you have to argue sometimes to better understand the other person.
Knowing these facts, the families make a decision, whereas, some families make decisions after their finances. In many cases, the families of child brides are rewarded greatly, a sort of bride price. For this knowledge question, a counter argument could be that because experts of the same discipline share the same knowledge, it would make it hard for them to disagree. Logic would have to play an important role in this argument. It takes the same studies to be in the same discipline therefore it would be logical for the experts to reach similar
There are many definition of an arranged marriage. There are many extremes of this practice. One of the more benign forms of arranged marriages is when two individuals have been introduced by each other’s families for the purpose of arranging their marriage, and yet, either one of the individuals can veto the marriage and back out of the arrangement. It should be noted that even in these more benign cases the family and cultural pressure to get married may be so great that the individuals might not back out for fear of disappointing their parents. In some cases, the young people look forward to their
In making this statement, the author shows that true hard work of marriage ultimately begins when you say “I do”. Common sense seems to dictate that communication is the key to a healthy marriage. Roiphe endorses this belief by stating that, “Many marriages fall apart because either partner cannot imagine what the other wants or cannot communicate what he or she needs or feels.” Setting up new ways of communicating with a spouse can help to create a stronger bond within the union. Advancing as a union as well as an individual gives a sense of balance between the two extremes. Roiphe