Larry does not want his father around and he wants to be his mother’s companion. This theory does not fit into the story because Larry does not want to kill his father, rather he wants his father to move out and leave their household. In the end Larry also feels bad for his father and wants his little brother to go away.
During the course of the novel of ‘Deadly Unna?’ the readers are exposed to the negativity between the father and his son. This affects Blacky in way that his self-esteem is almost non-existent, and the negativity is prominent throughout the novel. Examples of the neglect shown by his father are that of the time when Bob refers to Blacky as a ‘gutless wonder’, and the journey we take through the story of Blacky’s deteriorating respect for him. The ‘gutless wonder’ incident was a influential part of the novel, as Blacky realises that his Dad isn’t one to take advice of someone he feels is inferior than him, thus saying, ‘My own son, a gutless wonder. A gutless fucking wonder!’ When Blacky explains to his father about the storm, Bob insults him rather than swallow his pride and takes his son’s advice on board.
Baba raises Amir alone and in Amir’s words, “molded me to his own liking, in the same way that he molded the world to his own liking seeing the world as black and white and deciding too what was white and what was black”. Baba wants Amir to be like him who hunts and plays football, but Amir would rather stay home or play with his friend Hassan, recite poetry, read a book or write stories. Baba’s cold attitude as a parent makes Amir unable to love his father and in the process sort of “fear him too and hate him a little”. As a result Amir quietly defies his father and decides he will not succumb to his father’s “molding” ways. The silent animosity between father and son ends when Amir joins and wins a kite-flying contest and ties his own father’s record in the number of kites he cut down.
Nnaemeka marries out of tradition, where the father chooses who he wants his son to marry. His son chose himself and that is a great disrespect to his people. It causes pain and disappointment to the father. The father is in pain because he couldn’t believe his son went out of tradition and decided to marry someone of his choice. “..Father’s silence was infinitely more menacing than a flood of threatening speech.
The main obstacle keeping mischievous Dev from keeping such a comfortable relationship alive is his selfish attitude towards Miranda, who still feels alone and suffers from being used to satisfy Dev's need for an adventure. The character of the story "This Blessed House" Sanjeev has married the wrong woman whom he has little in common with. Sanjeev's prime motivation seems to be his desire for a normal family life with a traditional wife who would share the same conservative beliefs as himself. But in his attempt to make his family the way he wants it Sanjeev faces a conflict between his hidden desire to be with a modern woman and his need for a proper traditional Indian wife. Both of them, Dev and Sanjeev, strive to change their lives, one towards excitement, another towards stability.
Thesis: Lalit struggles to keep his family unit close in the midst of all the changes, stress and accepting his family growth, yet he still maintains a positive roll model through an effort to keep his cultural identity. Monsoon Wedding Lalit is the strongest motivator in the family in that he wants to be a good father and husband. In resulting to be a good roll model he struggles with balancing cultural expectations in his role as father, provider, mentor and husband. Not being able to help the new modern change and technology filled generation change, Lalit seems baffled at the younger generation and their way of life goals. He tries everything in his power to make things run smoothly and to make a good impression, yet Lalit’s expectations are high and he comes from a background of a hard worker.
As an individualistic person, he cares about himself, and his immediate family. This ironically causes a conflict of interest within him. He has stayed with his wife and chosen his career path (a police officer) because it is best for his family, and, having been abandoned by his own father, he explains to his new love Kathy “I swore I’d never do that to my own…” (Dubus 140) Staying together for the children used to be a very common excuse given regarding
I try to be the best and most loving wife I can be, but I feel as if I’m failing in this. As a wife I gave myself a C, because I have good intentions, but I do not follow them. I tried to help my husband with the bills by getting two jobs while going to school full time. I couldn’t handle the stress and I ended up quitting one of my jobs, this made me feel like I was failing him. My husband stands behind me no matter what I do, but I still feel like I let him down.
They may not do it on purpose but whether they realize it or not, it can destroy their family. Fathers should not make their job too much of a priority because it upsets and affects the female parent, a father’s presence helps children’s development, and it can be bad for the fathers health. The biggest problem mothers have with overworked fathers is the lack of attention showed to the child by the father. “We have a one year old who misses his daddy as much as I do.” (healthboards.com). This was written by a female parent on healthboards website.
He seems obsessed with prestige—although he himself is not willing to work for it. His dialogue throughout the work seems to be one long lamentation for the prestige that he does not have. In this first chapter Tambu expresses the injustice that women face; it is evident that she will come to dislike the members of her family (male and female) because they reinforce and perpetuate this inequity. Chapter 2: Tambu’s uncle Babamukuru is described in more detail. Babamukuru is the patriarch of Tambu’s family; he uses his success to support his entire family.