Understanding Love Essay

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September 21, 2014 Understanding Love My interpretive perception of what Erich Fromm’s idea in which ways we try to overcome our sense of separation and how we perceive love to be, are as I’m writing here. Our first “love” in life starts with our mother; it is a needy love, a nurturing love, a dependant love. In motherly love, two people who were as one become separated. As we grow into adolescence, people tend to see “the lovable” as popular and attractive, “erotically.” Fromm says sexual desire is not the only essence of erotic love; it is infatuation, casual sex. I believe he says that explaining how shallow just erotic love is. It is not too concerned for the emotional and future well-being of that person; it is mainly about the selfish orgasmic release, self-pleasure. Unfortunately, it is unlikely that this kind of love will be a lasting love. For it is usually short lived once the “thrill” has faded. True love is an action, an art, a work of art. It takes care, consideration, labor, and effort, a union. Love is giving, wanting the best for the beloved. The goodness we feel when we give to a loved one is an immense feeling of joy. The joy of giving is far greater than the joy of receiving. Immature love says, I love you because I need you. Mature love says, I need you because I love you. Love with respect and growth is responsible and concerning, aiming to lift up and cheer on. When one is truly in love, the love of everything, universal love, happens. In love with someone also means you love yourself. True love is fair, not deceitful and manipulative. The love is inspiring and truthful. Love is kind. I think it’s safe to say that most people are looking (maybe subconsciously) for true love, for that oneness, a partner or soul-mate for life. Though many people don’t recognize the difference between erotic love and true love, and may never find true love,
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