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In “Sex, Lies and conversation”, Deborah states The idea that Women always complain that communicating with a man is like trying to talk to a stranger who doesn’t know your language. On the other hand, Men complain that women like to talk and talk “She just wants to talk about her own point of view”. This shows us how differently men and women perceive conversation in their relationships. Tannen realized these differences when studying videotapes another researcher had made of best friends asked to have a conversation together. In contrast to the girls, boys were extremely strained with this beseech. Girls in all age groups would stay with each other and start to talk, eventually ending up discussing the problems of one girl. Boys, on the other hand, sit parallel to each other and keep changing the topics. It is easy to realize the problems when men and women communicate. Women make feelings of vicinity by chatting with their friends. Men don't communicate the same way of women, so they can't understand why their women are always talking. Eventually, many men just ignore their women when they are talking. Tannen observed that “the image that best represents the current crisis is the stereotypical cartoon scene of a man sitting at the breakfast table with a newspaper held up in front of his face, while a woman glares at the back of it, wanting to talk.” (Tannen 71) . In men’s eyes, he's being supportive, because men don't talk to each other about their troubles unless they really do want a solution. The man doesn't realize that his woman was simply trying to establish a certain kind of closeness with him. Because of these essential differences in approach, Tannen says that the most common complaint she hears from men about women "...is that women complain all the time and don't want to do anything about it...Men misunderstand the nature of

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