The Way That Women Making New Friends Is Different from Men

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From the article “To Charm and Make Friends Fast: Share, Don’t Overshare” written by Elizabeth Bernstein, sharing personal information with strangers is a technique to build connection with them, but you cannot disclose too much and too fast to avoid giving pressure to the strangers. The successful example mentioned in the article is about a woman, Carla Madrigal, making new friends in Seattle by using the technique. Ms. Madrigal knew nobody at the new living place, so she wanted to make new friends, which may help her to overcome the changes and instability in her daily life. The objective of this analysis is to understand the different ways of making new friends by women and men. As visions of thinking of male and female are different, their motive of initiating a conversation is also different. Women emphasize intimacy, they enjoy talking and think that talking is an important means of keeping in touch. Men respects independence, they see talking as a means to conveying information in order to solve problem or obtain information. Women use connection manoeuvres in conversation, they may start conversation with compliment to show support, and they can keep the conversation going by exchanging personal information to seek support from to each other. Different from women, men use control manoeuvres, they keep conversation going because of solving problems but not for establish closeness. As our society is patriarchal, mainly dominated by men, and men are the authoritative in linguistic development, the use of different type of language styles can keep men in power and seen their speech or opinion as masculine
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