The Sibling Competition Effect

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The Strange Sibling Competitiveness Effect When I was in Mexico I used to be a very competitive person in almost every single way from getting good grades in school to winning tournaments when I played tennis. I had a feeling that I had to push myself to give the best of me every single day. Six months ago I moved to the U.S to study college leaving all my family in Mexico. Of all this time that I’ve been here I’ve realized that I am not the same person since I moved. I don’t feel like pushing myself to give the best of me anymore. I was so worried about it that I started asking to myself “Why is this? What happened with the competitiveness that I used to have?” Is like I if were missing something. “May be it is because I’m in a different country or because my friends are not here with me” I thought at first. It didn’t take me too long to find out what the problem was; the reason of my lack of my competitiveness was because my siblings weren’t here with me anymore. Many people think that rivalry between siblings is unnecessary, but I think totally the contrary. I think that for some siblings like me and my brothers, competition is something fundamental in our lives to achieve our everyday goals and to feel the desire to overcome yourself. People think that the competitive relation between siblings shouldn’t exist, that is something unnecessary, and that nothing good can come out from that kind of relation, but according to the researcher Laurier Kramer of the University of Illinois rivalry between siblings can cause a very positive effect. “Relationships between siblings are far more complex than petty fighting. Fortunately, all of these interactions between siblings can be positive for the social development of the children. The skills children learn from one another both in good and in a bad: positive engagement, cohesion, shared experiences that build support,

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