When disciplining a child, parents often seek the best way to get control over their disobedience as soon as they can. A very familiar form of discipline is spanking. If a child is misbehaving, a swat on the bottom may be the first option a parent may go to. What spanking does, ultimately may not give the parent the satisfaction he or she wanted. After spanking children, they will stop what they are doing at the time and will immediately obey their authority.
If a parent feels like they will not be able to stop when spanking and it would lead to beating then they should use one of the other forms of discipline. A little spanking does not hurt, but a beating can lead to death or scars for life. There are many different choices for discipline. A little smack on the hand when they are younger, adds something to their little brains when they get ready to do something, it will make them think twice. A little spank on the bottom does not hurt either.
"Violence is an act carried out with the intention, or perceived intention, of causing physical pain or injury to another person" (Straus 7). When you spank a child you are intentionally causing pain; therefore, using violence to solve your problem. When a parent spanks a child, whether they are aware of it or not, they are teaching their child violence. They are teaching them that hitting someone else is okay. I know that when I was spanked as a child I knew that I had done something wrong.
Is it the only method of discipline that works? Now what a lot of parents don’t know is that, not only does smacking have short term mental and physical effects, it also has long term psychological effects which is why I believe smacking should be banned. Research shows that smacking undermines children’s confidence, weakens their emotional relationships and encourages the use of violence to solve any conflict with people around them. Psychologists say that alcoholism, depression, masochistic fantasies and suicidal thoughts arise from being smacking during childhood. Let’s just stop for a minute and think about this, how on earth can we expect children to play with other children without hitting each other, if we as
This method is wrong because it had bad consequences. Parents can use the correct method of education when the child baby. Many parents never learned from their own childhood that there are positive ways of relating to children. For example when punishment does not accomplish the desired goals, and if the parent is unaware of alternative methods, punishment can escalate to more frequent and dangerous actions against the child. Parents believe that beating is a means of discipline and kind of education.
Parents may also punish children for exhibiting behaviour that is not gender-appropriate, making them less likely to repeat this behaviour in the future. Peers are also another important source of gender development, particularly in adolescence and late childhood. Peers act as models for gender-appropriate behaviour, and like parents they usually reinforce gender-appropriate behaviour. In these interactions children reward each other for gender-appropriate behaviour and punish each other for gender-inappropriate behaviours. Gender development is heavily influenced in school environments.
There is a difference, however, between punching your child in the face, and spanking him on the bottom when he is misbehaving. Unfortunately, some parents take smacking and spanking their children too far. Some parents use physical discipline to the point where the child is receiving bruises or starts bleeding. Banning the spanking of children will not solve the real abusive cases. People who abuse their children will not stop just because it is illegal(1, Selwyn Duke , The New American).
This aggression could bring on temper tantrums, and urges of anger making it difficult for the parent who is taking the child to a public place. These actions draw a lot of negative attention while out in public. Bullying is one other behavior brought on by aggression causing your child to be suspended or even expelled from school. “Children don't learn peaceful ways of solving conflict when they are exposed to violence. "(Mann, 2010) Antisocial behavior is also at the top of the list of behaviors caused by
“On the other hand children also begin to believe that when they receive a reward for stopping an unacceptable behaviour, they should be given something when they treat people with respect” (Hall, 2009). Therefore, children today should not expect to receive these rewards and need to understand that sometimes you may have to complete a task without receiving anything in return. In addition, researchers have discovered that children whose parents use the reward system frequently tend to be less generous compared to their peers (Fabes et al., 1989; Grusec, 1991; Kohn, 1990). The most commonly known example of rewards being used to alter a child’s behaviour is when parents take children shopping. Some parents bribe their children to be quiet or to display “good” behaviour by buying or promising them sweets, toys or other incentives.
It seemed to be the most effective and typical way to discipline their kids. Today spanking or smacking is a major issue in todays society. Many more people these days believe that smacking children is a form of child abuse and if a parent smacks a child in public there likely to be stared at, have something said to them or in extreme cases might be reported for abuse. Having been smacked as a child a few times for naughty behaviour, I now believe that smacking should not be illegal and that it is a vital part in helping develop discipline , understanding the hierarchy between parent and child and keeping the child and others out of harm. I am a firm believer that a short, sharp smack can keep children under control.