With the use of understatement and irony, the letter states his values as a loving, yet strict father who only wants his son to succeed and nothing more. "I confess I have often my doubts whether [my writing] is of any use to you", the first line in Chesterfield's letter, shows that he is doubtful as to whether or not his advice will help his son. The use of understatement is very clear here, as Chesterfield is making it seem like his words aren't as important as they really are. "I know how unwelcome advice generally is" is a clear example of this. Chesterfield is making his words feel unnecessary and not worth the time to read.
FATHER/SON RELATIONSHIP Blacky’s relationship with his father is integral in moulding the adolescent that he is. Although the relationship between the two is clearly negative, it somewhat helps him to look past the fatherly influences, and to seek positive role models to assist him through the journey to maturity. Blacky’s self-esteem levels are low due to the negative relationship and he expects no support from his father. His relationship with his mother, the relationships he develops with other men assist Blacky in developing the courage to stand up for what he believes in. During the course of the novel of ‘Deadly Unna?’ the readers are exposed to the negativity between the father and his son.
More than anyone, a boy needs his father to approve of him and teach him how to be a man. Well, his father did not show him the love he required growing up. In all of Paul’s efforts to please his father, he was ignored and inadequate to his father’s expectations. In fact, his father praised a young man that worked as a clerk and insisted that Paul ought to be more like that gentleman. His father refused to give Paul money and argued that he has a job, so he can pay his own expenses.
Boor shows this when he writes, “So you figured it would be better if I just hated myself” (265). The only reason his parents told him the truth is Paul confronted them. While they admitted that he had a right to know, they justified their reason for not telling him earlier. Paul may have understood that his parents’ love led to their over protection but he probably distrusted his parents and their ability to tell him the whole truth. Paul’s parents’ choices changed the direction of his life.
The boy protects his father when his mother speaks badly of him. The young boy is naive and ignores the fathers lack of responsibility. This keeps the boys hope of becoming the idyllic father one day intact The relationship between the real father and his son is really controlled by expectations and the idyllic figure a father is to his son. We get the impression of the father´s lack of responsibility and capability of handling a child, through the mother’s comments on the father. The dad´s answers to the euphoric boy aren’t encouraging
‘There is a way to be good again.’ From this, you can tell that Amir is trying to gain forgiveness and wants to redeem himself of the actions that haunt him to this day. The moral standard Amir must meet to earn his redemption is set early in the book, when Baba says that a boy who doesn’t stand up for himself becomes a man who can’t stand up to anything. As a boy, Amir fails to stand up for himself. As an adult, he can only redeem himself by proving he has the courage to stand up for what is right. The most substantial part of Amir’s search for redemption stems from his guilt regarding Hassan.
Baba raises Amir alone and in Amir’s words, “molded me to his own liking, in the same way that he molded the world to his own liking seeing the world as black and white and deciding too what was white and what was black”. Baba wants Amir to be like him who hunts and plays football, but Amir would rather stay home or play with his friend Hassan, recite poetry, read a book or write stories. Baba’s cold attitude as a parent makes Amir unable to love his father and in the process sort of “fear him too and hate him a little”. As a result Amir quietly defies his father and decides he will not succumb to his father’s “molding” ways. The silent animosity between father and son ends when Amir joins and wins a kite-flying contest and ties his own father’s record in the number of kites he cut down.
But, Siddhartha feels like there's something missing in his blessed life and he wants to go out and search for further enlightenment, to attain Nirvana. Siddhartha feels like he should join the Samanas, holy men who seek enlightenment through austerity, but he needs his fathers approval, which he knows he will not easily attain. Still, Siddhartha goes to his father for his approval, but as Siddhartha expected, his father was angry and would not give it. Siddhartha says he would never disobey his father, but being just as stubborn as his father he decides to stand in the middle of the room until his father gives his blessing. This he did all night, without moving or speaking.
As a child, Amir was constantly trying to impress his father, Baba, who looked up to Hassan more than he did Amir. This caused Amir to always be jealous of Hassan, and would constantly test Hassan's loyalty. This was one of the things that I hated about Amir. No matter how much Hassan did for him, he still tested him. Amir would rather his father love him and be proud of him for one day than help his best friend from getting raped.
Mathabane father was raised in the tribes, and he believed strongly in the values and purpose of rituals. The whole family had to participate and live by his father rules and rituals, Even though they were surrounded by modern things. Mathabane does not see things his way which caused a dagger in their relationship. Mathabane wanted to learn modern things like his friends and communicate with his friends by speaking other languages. Mathabane tried but could not escape his father tribalism.