However, all three share similar traits. They are very controlling of the people around them. They are also hiding something in their lives that they do not want others to know about. Ricky and Lester are also related in the sense of wanting to be loved and accepted by their family members. Ricky is trying to gain his father’s acceptance and love and Lester is trying to rekindle his relationship with his wife and daughter.
Yet as the story continues, he steps out of his comfort-zone in order to find his mother which allows him to develop a stronger sense of independence. Numerous times in the novel Christopher references a recurring dream he has of himself being the only person left on earth. While the dream was not directly focusing on the factor of not having to be social, it gave us a hint toward believing Christopher's aims for self-sufficiency. This dream it emphasizes how intense his desire is for self-sufficiency which was directly correlated to Christopher's disobedience to Father. Christopher's disobedience stemmed from his desire for independence, which caused him to assert himself showing relative maturity.
Jamal is very close to his mother and brother throughout the whole film. Since his father is not in his life he feels that he needs to be as close to his mother as he possibly can. Richard’s parents do not have much education. He is embarrassed that they can’t speak English very well. At first Richard is close to his family, but once he gets older he does not have a very good relationship with them and distances himself from them.
Tom’s goal is really easy because he just wants to maintain his life and survival, which can include three bottom levels in Maslow’s hierarchy. For physiological, he needs job which means money to support his life and his family. For safety, he wants security of family and employment. For love/ belonging, he wants to keep his friendship with people and relationship with family. However, he is narcissistic in the success of new product, and he told the engineer in Malaysia do not tell anyone about the problem of product in the beginning, which is deceit.
Kay argues that Othello is a very self-absorbed man who seeks petty and reassurance in others because of the way he was raised by his mother and the challenges he encountered growing up. Instead of Othello being raised with a close bond to his mother, ensuring high self-confidence and an easier upbringing. Kay argues that Othello didn't have a close relationship with his mother (developed as an infant), which leads to “seeking substitute emotional mirrors for the remainder of his life.” While Kay is correct and justified in stating that Othello is incredibly self-centered and is seeking merely petty by gathering an audience, she is not accurate in her attempts stating that it was caused by his upbringing and lack of a close relationship with his mother. The sources used were printed between 1932-1980 (keeping in mind that this essay was written in 1983), and are completely outdated. And to say that he is in emotional distress is a complete opinion regardless on how many doctors give the diagnosis.
I could never understand how she did it all by herself; however, she managed to keep her family together. To her, family was the most important thing in her life, and that’s why my mother is very important to me. With my mother coming from a very religious family, she became a very religious woman, and made sure that her children knew God as well. I can remember back when I was a little girl, my mother made us attend all church activities. Not only did we go to church services, we also attended Sunday school, Bible school, Bible study, and Revivals.
Kids are highly influential especially at a young age. A child who sees a father abusing his mother might grow up and find it acceptable to beat on his own wife and kids, alas the cycle continues. Society also play a very big part in this, we now see and accept divorce and broken families as a new normal. Since many fathers generally are not the major caretakers of their kids after a divorce, bad feeling are formed with the kids. These negative feelings are due to dads not regularly seeing and interacting with their kids.
James McBride writes The Color of Water as a dedication to his mother and his own life. McBride speaks of the many hardships he and his family went through in order to make it where they are today. James McBride talks about the power of race in his house and how it affects him and his siblings in their everyday lives. With the idea of race being so prominent in his upbringing, we would tend to think that the notion of race is one that must be looked at from all angles in order to make sense of his life. However, McBride describes race as such a powerful force that it becomes ignorable.
Being a man, he is forced to shoulder the responsibility to lead not only his immediate family, but that of his extended family as well. Being the headmaster of the mission school has brought him several life changing opportunities, one that can lead a person out of poverty. However, Babamukuru does not want to at first take these, knowing that he will be in debt with his benefactors. Looking at the poverty that his family is in, he feels that since he has been given the chance to move forward in life, he must also help his family come forward too. Because of this, he has become the hero of his family.
Parents usually expect their oldest child to be more capable and more responsible than the younger children. The oldest child comes to think about himself in the same way. These ways of seeing himself, of thinking about himself because of his sibling role, become part of his self-concept. Just like me I am the oldest child in family and I have two little brothers and a lot cousin, when I was little still live with my grandparents’, they always say I have to set up a good example for my brothers and cousin so they can follow and learn, so I always very careful what I have done, like when we going to school, I have to set up a good student example for them, back home need study hard or help parents at home do chores. When they saw what I do, they will just follow me what i did and learn from it.