While decent parents tend to teach their children to be polite and kind to others, they also furnish them with the knowledge needed to endure their social environment, more specifically, the code of the street. When violence occurs, decent parents teach their children how to defend themselves and how to avoid becoming vulnerable victims. Unlike decent parents, street parents tend to exhibit a lack of concern for others and often have difficulties establishing a sincere sense of family and community. Street parents use the code of the street as an aggressive method of socializing their offspring into the violent subculture of the inner-cities. Anderson notes that the street-oriented family is typically discernible by social disorganization.
Due to the uniquely stressful work environment, Law Enforcement have created an occupational subculture with its own informal code of ethics. The “group think” formed from the homogenous social group of Policing has supported a line of thinking and behaving, that is usually at odds with the formal ethics and values of the organization. One of these informal codes is that of “professional courtesy.” In its simplest sense this is the idea that cops don’t write other cops. Through this paper I will discuss why ethics are important, some of the ethical systems that form the framework for making decisions, and weigh the idea of professional courtesy against those systems. Is it ethical or unethical…that is the question.
It is not unusual for adult children of permissive parents to feel resentful or angry toward their parents as they realize the many lessons they were not taught as children because their parents were so desperate to not make waves at any cost,by being the “cool mom”. I have listed a few Characteristics of the Permissive Parenting Style, which I call - (PPS – Permissive Parenting Style). ), I have found that in doing the research, that I, myself as a parent are guilty of some of the things below. Have few rules or standards of behavior When there are rules, they are often very inconsistent Are usually very nurturing and loving towards their kids Often seem more like a friend, rather than a parent. May use bribery such as toys, gifts and food as a means to get child to behave There are some effects to this type of parenting such as: Lack self-discipline Sometimes have poor social skills May be self-involved and demanding May feel insecure due to the lack of boundaries and guidance Since these parents have few requirements for mature behavior, children may lack skills in social settings.
To some individuals, that is not an option, having your guard up is an essential factor for the way of life, their world can often use the term, “watching your back” which takes on a literal meaning. In the article “The Code of the Street” by Elijah Anderson, he allows a glimpse of everyday life through the eyes of two completely different worlds wrapped up with in one universe. I thought throughout his essay, a very stereotypical format of “code of the street” was often presented over and over. Although the meaning can take on different perceptions to the eye of the beholder, the author described it as a code of civility at one end of conduct regulated by the threat of violence. Within these most economically drugged, crime-related, and depressing neighborhoods, the rules of civil action have been severely weakened, and their stead of survival known as this “code of the street” often holds many their key to survival.
Coontz argues about social problems stemming from the 1950s and how they affected the family structure. She states that people don't miss the way women were treated, and they sure wouldn't want to live with most of the fathers they knew in their neighborhoods" (33). This is a clear example that people do not really miss the family structure of the time. The families of the time, because of the miss treatment of women,
Spanking is wrong Spanking is one of the most common forms of discipline used by parents. Although the very same parents do not condone hitting people, they believe spanking is a quick and effective technique for correcting unwanted behavior (Ramsburg 1). Ironically, by using violent and hurtful means of discipline, parents are instilling negative values in their children. The moral consequences of spanking children can have lifelong negative effects. For young children, parents are their primary role models.
Kids are highly influential especially at a young age. A child who sees a father abusing his mother might grow up and find it acceptable to beat on his own wife and kids, alas the cycle continues. Society also play a very big part in this, we now see and accept divorce and broken families as a new normal. Since many fathers generally are not the major caretakers of their kids after a divorce, bad feeling are formed with the kids. These negative feelings are due to dads not regularly seeing and interacting with their kids.
When taking the simpler route, the individual does not show persistence because they want to easily pursue their desire. Risk taking involves being a bit reckless and dangerous with no regard of being cautious. Since people with low self-control they only think of themselves primarily, being insensitive to others, they may be short tempered and handle situations with little ability to communicate verbally. I had a positive guardianship growing up in my household. If both my sister and I were out of “control” according to my mother, she would not hesitate to spank us, which is now looked down upon in today’s society.
The Envious Mother V. The Emotionally Unavailable Mother Many people complain about there so called “impossible mother” thinking that because their mother is not perfect the automatic alternative is that she’s difficult, but there is no such thing as a perfect mother. Only a “good-enough” mother. Apter defines a good-enough mother as a mother with whom a son or daughter finds more comfort than pain, more resonance than dissonance, and one who introduces her child to the multiple transactions that constitute love between two imperfect people. A good-enough mother may have habits that more often annoying then endearing; but she is good-enough because the relationship she offers has room for understanding, imagination, growth, and pleasure. So what is a difficult mother?
According to Dr. Tucker, an associate professor of family studies, and John V. Caffaro, a clinical psychologist and author of “Sibling abuse trauma” both agree with the fact of peer aggression and violence among siblings need a lot of attention. These days you find sibling violence way to common because many parents lack to acknowledge it as a problem, but instead see it as simple hullabaloo. As Caffaro has experienced, the problem with most clients to “erode their sense of identity”. Outline. The positive and negative aspects of sibling rivalry is hard to determine, but according to Joanna Briscoe there seem to be a slightly negative effect of having a sibling.