However, I’m also going to disappoint, bring down, and discourage. Life is full of ups, downs, lefts, and rights. It’s full of lessons and it’s full of mysteries. Achieving perfection is nothing but a myth. The only way we can really achieve perfection is by making our own definition.
Accepting and Confirming Others You do not need a degree in human behavior to understand that accepting others as they are, loving them just as they are, and not wanting to change them into a version of what we think they should be is really all about accepting ourselves just as we are. It can be a huge leap to imagine it is really all about us. Our judgments of others can involve friends, family, work colleagues and even our significant others. We tend to get along better with people who remind us of ourselves. Therefore, if they try to do things differently, have a different worldview or do things a little slower/faster than us, then we often get the upset with them.
After a significant loss, you may experience all kinds of difficult and surprising emotions, such as shock, anger, and guilt. Sometimes it may feel like the sadness will never let up. While these feelings can be frightening and overwhelming, they are normal reactions to loss. Accepting them as part of the grieving process and allowing yourself to feel what you feel is necessary for healing. There is no right or wrong way to grieve but there are healthy ways to cope with the pain.
I’ll start by talking about the age old expression “nobody is perfect.” – a sad and bitter truth in our modern world. What it is saying, is that, there is nothing you can do to completely avoid all and any mistakes you have the potential to make. I obviously disagree. Or rather, it doesn’t matter. Mistakes are only an issue if we think they are something to regret.
We can be honest to the people we trusted the most like your parents, friends or relatives. Honesty is also a way to lessen our punishments. The more we lie, the heavier punishment we can get. But by being honest, we can lessen it, just like girl saying the truth to her parents that she will not come home early because she has a project to finish. Sometimes, being honest is quite bad.
Being kind can make you as a person feel good. When you put other people down to make yourself look good you are only lying to yourself, everyone around you really knows the truth. Seeing someone smile because of something you did or said can also make you smile. Being kind is also a very attractive quality in another person wither it is a friend, relationship, or family. Being kind should become cool, it will not only make others feel good but it will make you feel good too.
Do you believe in your dreams? or do you allow other people to tear them down and tell what you can and can’t do? Enough with self-criticism, self-hate, self-abuse, and self neglect. Enough with the unrealistic measures of what happiness and success looks like Enough with being treated by anyone with anything less than respect and unconditional love “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH”!!!!! Now, Imagine if you would for just a moment, a life where you were always told “you can do it”, reach for the stars, anythings possible, where you refused to be in an abusive or toxic relationship, where you always take care of yourself first daily, without guilt or worry that everything will fall apart, that you respect yourself so deeply that every relationship you have reflects the respect and unconditional love you have for yourself.
If people don't have respect, their lost. Then they wind up with bigger problems. It is thinking of how other people feels, and treating them the way you wanted to be treated. To give respect to people even though they have shown you none and treated you wrong shows that you are a strong, mature, independent, and responsible individual. When you tell someone you value his or her specific contribution you are giving appreciation.
You have become addicted to the other. Now for the first time you are taking a courageous step of being lonely: the pain will be there. It is a birth pain, pain of growth. It will disappear, nothing to be worried about. It is good, because it is not going to harm you.