Men like "simple" women, not women who are fake, stupid and can’t think for themselves (and it’s so easy to tell them apart). Remember the first time you got drunk (or stoned)? I’m sure you didn’t want to start, but a "friend" pushed you, you did it, and now you like it! That shows you can’t think for yourself. Sadly, people who are truly themselves, and stick to their values and beliefs tend to be alone and get overlooked often, but that’s not their problem.
One of the most predominant themes that the author illustrates is the problem with communication that the main characters are struggling with. The father is having more difficulty than the daughter, but he seems to have always had an issue. The father has no problem with the idea of communicating, but he never actually physically does it: “He hardly ever writes back to me, but every so often he calls. Every time we talk, we say that we should write more often, get to know each other better. And then I won’t hear from him 2 for another year” (Ng-Chan 40).
My answer would be that the superficial appearance was that they were inseparable, friends to the end. But, between the two, the path was bumpy to say the least. They had a rough go, especially with the issue of the war, the fact that their mutual friend had seemed to go crazy, Gene caused nothing but trouble for Phineas, and was quite well the death of him. Did they have a friendship? My answer is yes, although it dwindled.
When couples are faced with life changing events or illnesses the balance changes quickly and they will find themselves in the difficult position of facing their own feelings and fears while trying to support each other. People are happiest in relationships where the give and take is about equal. If one person is getting too little from the relationship, then not only are they going to be unhappy with this, the person getting the lion’s share will also be feeling rather guilty about this imbalance. This is reinforced by strong social norms about fairness. In short-term relationships we tend to trade in things, such as swapping or borrowing items or buying drinks, in long term relationships the trade is more emotional.
When he finds Haze and starts talking I really just believe that he wants a friend. “I reckon I’ll go along and keep you company for a while” (42). He might have just been being friendly to Haze because he also didn’t know anybody except Mrs. Leora Watts. “I ain’t ever been to such an unfriendly place before” (43). Enoch asks Haze, “You know many people here?” Haze replied “No”.
It does explain the great difficulties people can encounter with morning despite they had a secure attachment with the person they lost. This does make sense when we understand the meaning of a secure base, even though people with secure attachments can naturally take for granted the secure base provided by their parents when it is available, however when they lose it they would experience a difficult period of adjustment to deal with the vacuum created and then moving on. This process can be more fraught for people with insecure attachments and they might not reach the last stage of reorganisation if they are not understood and aided by people around
You get rushed and preoccupied, and you stop taking the perspective of the other person, precisely because the two of you are so close.” Being rushed and not going in depth in conversations and only making short statements is a key in miscommunication. “Communication is complex; it requires a number of skills and both ongoing learning and practice to improve our skills. Misunderstandings occur frequently, and they can cause problems in relationships.” (Sole, 2011). Having my husband not understand what I mean by such a short statement is something that I expect since he is my husband. Yet I would not expect someone that isn’t as close to me to immediately grasp what it is I am trying to get across.
It can be frustrating at times so I think studies that are done with this topic can maybe help spouses figure out where they are going wrong with their communication skills. I have been around a group of strangers and have felt a time or two that they understood me better than my spouse which I did not understand. How can someone who does not know me understand and communicate with me better than someone who spends all their time with me everyday and lives with me. This article shed a little light for me. It makes sense that when you are comfortable with someone you think that you know all you need to know or all you was going to absorb.
Most people regard lateness as a minor and pardonable offence and sometimes turn up to engagements intentionally late, expecting the other party to easily forgive them. This attitude towards time is very common among young people and people without demanding or busy schedules. Being late communicates more than ‘something held me back for a few seconds’, it speaks volumes about your character, it has the ability to negatively affect the success or otherwise of a meeting and create an unfavorable reputation that would last many years. When we are the one running late to a meeting we automatically expect to be forgiven and see nothing really wrong with our action, but when we are the one who has to wait for someone running late, we see the importance of being on time and grasp the undesirability of lateness. For many years, teachers have highlighted the importance of being punctual, not only for the meeting or the other person’s sake but for one’s self.
While reading the article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communications” I have come to a conclusion that no matter how long you may have known a person you may never truly know that person. Within the article they conducted a survey on married couples and came to the conclusion that while some couples may be on the same page in every aspect of their life they are not as close as they may think or even the same page as things may appear. Within a relationship things are pretty fast tracked and some may not notice all of the details or even forget something. No matter how much time you may spend with a person you only know as much as they wants you to know. I recently had a miscommunication encounter with my only sister, feeling as though she felt where I was coming from about the entire situation.