FATHER/SON RELATIONSHIP Blacky’s relationship with his father is integral in moulding the adolescent that he is. Although the relationship between the two is clearly negative, it somewhat helps him to look past the fatherly influences, and to seek positive role models to assist him through the journey to maturity. Blacky’s self-esteem levels are low due to the negative relationship and he expects no support from his father. His relationship with his mother, the relationships he develops with other men assist Blacky in developing the courage to stand up for what he believes in. During the course of the novel of ‘Deadly Unna?’ the readers are exposed to the negativity between the father and his son.
The fear of loosing his son led Romulus to attempt to better himself, seen through the statement “My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.” Although this method of parenting gave short-term dismay demonstrated through Raimond’s childhood outburst “you don’t love me”. It resulted in long-term fulfillment and a healthy relationship worthy of being recognized retrospectively within Gaitas
This journey is one of realisation and the pathway to maturity. This can be discussed in many different scenes from the movie. The most important thing to pete during the journey are his spiritual beliefs and ways learnt from his grandfather Jubbi. Before the journey pete was just a young boy, messing around with his best friend kalmain, believing his grandfathers 'old' ways were useless, and thinking he could look after himself but couldn't. The journey put pete into realisation that everything his grandfather had taught him had saved his and kalmains life.
This indicates that he lacks the love from his real father. The boy tries to live up to his fathers expectations, and has a strong bond to his father. Loyalty and being true to your closest is also an important element of the boys behaviour, he protects his father no matter what, and that is a crucial part of the boy´s mental state in this short story. The boy is naive and has high thoughts of his father, these thoughts are shown through the boys’ actions and delighted comments. The boy protects his father when his mother speaks badly of him.
Harmonium and Nettles Harmonium and Nettles both highlight the theme of memory. As they both are looking back over past memories that are painful, the poems feature the feelings of being helpless in stopping the hurt that was caused. The writer in Harmonium feels remorse for the things he hadn’t said to his father as Armitage states “then mouth in reply some shallow sorry phrase or word too starved of breath to make itself heard”. The writer in Nettles is protective of the recurring threat to his child that he can’t destroy. “rain had called up tall recruits behind the shed,” this quote shows the father cannot destroy them .They differ in the way they felt powerless however as in Nettles the father is feeling powerless because of a physical threat whereas in Harmonium it is an emotional threat of the inevibility of death and unspoken feelings that makes the writer feel powerless.
“Manhood” by John Wain focuses on the slightly negative sides of pacing, even though the father may not be doing what he does to put pressure on his son. “The Happiest Days of Your Life” written by Penelope Lively, is telling us how childhood actually can be. “Growing up” is represented in both stories, as a period in your life where other people affect you and adjust you into being who you are, and in that way making every single person unique. I chose to analyse and compare these two texts, because they deal with the theme “growing up” in quite similar ways. E.g.
The father is all about his son, probably the best a father could be to protect his son. His stand- point on God is he wants his son to have something to believe in when he is gone. He tries to convince the child, and possibly himself that God is still an active cause to believe in, “My job is to take care of you. I was appointed to do that by God” (77). Here and there he will make small references for the kid even though his belief is cloudy.
The first editorial that I reviewed was titled, “Fathers Are Essential.” The life experiences inspire the editorial written by David Thomas. According to David, his viewpoint is that fathers are indispensable in the raising of children. He describes how his father’s insistence on personal responsibility, and respect for women shaped his vision of effective fatherhood. He also contends that society holds little regard for fathers, but argues that people should recognize the important contribution that real fathers make to their children. In the editorial he goes into detail about what he feels “are good dads,” and how children with loving fathers outperform children without fathers.
‘In The Kite Runner relationships between fathers and sons are never joyful’ Whether or not a child has experienced genuine bonding with his father is integral to what characteristics and values that child will grow up to have. Hosseini portrays many father-son relationships, including that of Amir and Baba, Hassan and Sohrab and Amir and Sohrab. Despite some of the obvious tension between these relationships – such as Amir’s hopeless pursuit of approval from Baba – it may not be so clear to argue that the relationships throughout the novel are never joyful. On the one hand it could be argued that the relationships are never joyful when considering the recurring lies and hypocrisy that many of the characters have to deal with. Amir and Hassan where both concealed of the fact that Hassan was Baba’s true son despite Baba’s himself stating that ‘lying is stealing someone’s right to the truth’.
He is obviously biased against his father and wants his mother’s sole attention. This point of view provides humor because Larry thinks that he actually belongs in his father’s place, as his mother’s sole companion. Sexuality is involved in the story’s humor because the boy sees his mother as a spouse and he thinks that they can have children together. 3. Larry calls it irony that his prayers were answered because he prayed that his father would return from the war, and when his father actually returns from the war, he wishes that he would leave again.