Substance Abuse-Family Relationships

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Copyright © 2010 by Candace Plattor All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted, in any form or by any means, without the prior written consent of the publisher. Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication Plattor, Candace, 1950Loving an addict, loving yourself : the top 10 survival tips for loving someone with an addiction / Candace Plattor. ISBN 978-0-9813850-0-6 (printed book); ISBN 978-0-9813850-1-3 (ebook) 1. Addicts--Family relationships. 2. Substance abuse--Patients--Family relationships. 3. Self-help techniques. 4. Self-care, Health. 5. Interpersonal confrontation. I. Title. RC533.P537 2009 362.29’13 C2009-907077-4 If you would like to publish…show more content…
In my experience, the vast majority of people never even think about it, much less realize how vitally important it is to fully own our self-respect. And when we love an addict, so much of our energy and effort goes into trying to change them that we often don’t pay much attention to ourselves. Our own needs, desires, yearnings, and yes, our self-respect, generally wind up on the back burner. What I’ve Learned about Addicts and Their Loved Ones The Downtown Eastside area of Vancouver1 is statistically the lowest-income region in all of Canada. It has the largest number of people on income assistance, the highest percentage of the “working poor,” and the highest concentration of practicing alcoholics and drug addicts in the country. While working as an addictions counselor in Vancouver’s gritty Downtown Eastside for more than fifteen years, I had many opportunities to meet not only clients who were struggling with their own addictions, but also the families, partners, and friends of those addicts. I soon understood that addiction has many far-reaching ripple effects for all concerned. Loving an addict means sharing in the misery of the addiction, until our own healing allows for a different way of life. Coupling my personal knowledge of what it’s like to love someone who has an addictive behavior with my professional understanding gleaned from working with families of addicts, what I know for certain is that we, their loved ones, are strong and capable people. We have to be. We are able to withstand unspeakable misery and

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