According to Chua, Chinese parents do not only set strict rules and regulations that their children have to abide by, but they also use negative reinforcement when their children do not want to obey their orders. In contrast, western parents believe that it is unnecessary to control their children preferences such as, no watching T.V, studying excessively and only participating in extracurricular activities that they are assigned to be successful throughout life. However, Chua claims that the children brought up by the “Chinese mother” style of parenting still turn out not only to be mentally, physically, and emotionally stable but happy and as well as successful later on in life. Chua says she knows this because the “Chinese mother” methods help her raise two successful kids. She gives a list of things that her children were not allowed to do, which consist of them not taking part in any school plays or getting any grades less than an A and that it all paid off for her in the end.
Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior The article ”Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” focuses on the fact that chinese children are turning out to be so stereotypically successful. Amy Chua points out that there is a big difference between Chinese mothers and Western parents and the way they raise their kids: ”What Chinese parents understands is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it. To get good at anything you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences. This often requires fortitude on the part of the parents because the child will resist; things are always hardest at the beginning, which is where Western parents tend to give up.” I think this quote makes a good picture of how she thinks of herself as a parent and the Western people as parents. To make her point clear she uses a lot of pathos and a lot of examples from experiences with herself and her two daughters, Louisa and Sofia.
Childhood Importance James Bernard Murphy, a professor of government at Dartmouth College and Author of “In Defense of Being a Kid”, emphasizes the importance of innocence and enjoyment of childhood years. This underlined the question, are children’s childhood adventures and care-free life more important than the preparation of our children’s future by the work of us parents? I’m sure all of us can debate this question. Murphy argues with Amy Chua, Author of “Why Mothers Are Superior” that children should enjoy their years as a child. Chua (a Chinese mother) feels differently, moral and culturally.
In other words, one-child policy is another way to reduce the resources. Chinese government encourages people “late marriage, late childbirth”, which make a big effect for young couples’ thoughts. In today’s China, some young couples choose to have children late or do not want to have a child. Some new styles of family are growing in China. For a big country like China, one important thing is being responsible to the world.
Sometimes, an individual may be required to fulfil a role not through choice, but rather one that is determined by the individual’s links with one’s cultural background. For example, individuals stemming from Chinese backgrounds are often portrayed by the media as being required to be academically excellent by their parents. It is fair to assume that not all Chinese children choose to live out this role, as Vanessa Woods indicates in “Perfect Chinese Children”. Wood’s identity has been forged soon after birth by her underpinning Chinese heritage. It could be inferred that such harsh expectations on Woods has stifled the growth of her identity, because she was forbidden to fulfill her ambitions of becoming a writer, and instead was almost coerced into succeeding academically and making her mother proud.
Even though China was not very develop country at the time this may have been the beginning of a big change for China. This law says a lot about the Chinese characteristics. They are loyal, intelligent people who are making a big impact on the many people live in the world
with their emphasis on nurturing their children's self-esteem and allowing free expression, have set their children up to accept mediocrity. "Western parents are concerned about their children's psyches. Chinese parents aren't. They assume strength, not fragility, and as a result they behave very differently," she says. If their child doesn't achieve perfect exam results, the Chinese parent assumes it's because he or she didn't work hard enough.
In the section of family, Li mention that the children are believe to be property of their parents but also the future to society (158) so their parents regard it as their responsibility to look after their children’s study and life. In her journal Journal of Cross-Cultural Psychology, Deborah Stipek stated that Chinese claimed that they would feel more proud if their child were accepted to a prestigious university than if they were accepted themselves, whereas Americans claimed they would feel equally proud in these two circumstances. Americans had more positive attitudes toward expressing pride in personal accomplishments, and Chinese were more likely to claim that pride should only be experienced for outcomes that benefit others(
Being a successful parent requires a lot of patience, a good set of communication skills and unconditional love. To begin, I personally believe that having toleration is the one of the most important things in becoming a successful parent. Since the nature of a parent requires one to teach, parents must not only teach but also be able to understand and listen to their child’s ideas. According to Amy Tan- the author of “Fish Cheeks”, she as a child shows her shame for her culture and family traditions by acting embarrassed throughout Christmas dinner. However her mother is accepting of her behavior and says, “But inside you must always be Chinese.
Chinese parents believe that corporal punishment is an effective way in teaching younger generation. Only after being punished for wrongdoings can a child grow up in the proper way. They seldom listen to their children’s thoughts because in their opinion a child is too young to suggest. The adults usually have the stereotype that what children say are just some useless foolish fragments of sentences which not even make sense. Children are asked to do what they are told.