During the course of the novel of ‘Deadly Unna?’ the readers are exposed to the negativity between the father and his son. This affects Blacky in way that his self-esteem is almost non-existent, and the negativity is prominent throughout the novel. Examples of the neglect shown by his father are that of the time when Bob refers to Blacky as a ‘gutless wonder’, and the journey we take through the story of Blacky’s deteriorating respect for him. The ‘gutless wonder’ incident was a influential part of the novel, as Blacky realises that his Dad isn’t one to take advice of someone he feels is inferior than him, thus saying, ‘My own son, a gutless wonder. A gutless fucking wonder!’ When Blacky explains to his father about the storm, Bob insults him rather than swallow his pride and takes his son’s advice on board.
With the use of understatement and irony, the letter states his values as a loving, yet strict father who only wants his son to succeed and nothing more. "I confess I have often my doubts whether [my writing] is of any use to you", the first line in Chesterfield's letter, shows that he is doubtful as to whether or not his advice will help his son. The use of understatement is very clear here, as Chesterfield is making it seem like his words aren't as important as they really are. "I know how unwelcome advice generally is" is a clear example of this. Chesterfield is making his words feel unnecessary and not worth the time to read.
He felt that by engaging in dialogue it would help the client work towards their goals. He felt that with dialogue the client would show sign of caring, warmth acceptance and self-responsibility (Simkin, 1981). With this approach the therapist is able to help their clients reach their goals through encouragement and allowing the client to be expressive and to be responsible for their actions. As for Alfred Adler, the Adlerian approach was the first holistic theory of personality, psychopathology, and psychotherapy that was
When the therapist is able to show an empathetic understanding of what the client is experiencing, it helps the client have a better inner understanding as well. • Unconditional positive regard – Therapists must always maintain a positive and non-judgmental view of their clients. Rogers’ believed that conditional regard and support from others lead to some of the problems clients mostly experienced. When they felt accepted without conditions and the fear of rejection was no more there, clients could openly talk about their
“You really listen and you really care.” These are the two main components of successful therapy according to Carl Roger’s theory of Person Centered Therapy. Rogers believed that the most effective way to provide therapy was to create a non-judgmental environment for the client where they could feel accepted, regardless of their issues, so they might form a bond with the therapist and experience positive growth. Through this bond, the therapist is able to gradually help the client to find their own solutions to their problems, without the therapist pushing them in a certain direction or imposing solutions onto them. Rogers thought it essential to focus on the person as a whole, rather than on the person’s problems in particular. Shedding the stigma of their problems, the client is able to step back and examine themself as a whole person and become aware of not only who they are, but who they have the capacity to become as well.
This is due to the fact that the therapist and client are seen as equal partners rather than as an expert treating a patient (McLeod, 2008). Nothing like other therapies, clients are responsible for improving their own life rather than the therapist. This is different from psychoanalysis and behavioural therapies whereby the “patient” is diagnosed and treated accordingly. Instead, the client consciously and rationally decides for themselves what the problem is and what should or can be done about it. The therapist is more of a friend who listens, standby their clients and encourages their clients.
Amir and Hassan where both concealed of the fact that Hassan was Baba’s true son despite Baba’s himself stating that ‘lying is stealing someone’s right to the truth’. The fact that Amir was finally told this information by Rahim Khan only highlights the idea that he was the only supportive male figure he had in his life, and the lack of communication between Amir and Baba makes Amir question the true identity of his father. In the same way, Amir fails to admit to his father as to what really happened in the winter of 1975, and now feels even more burdened with his ‘past of unatoned sins’ that have haunted him ‘for the last 26 years’. Secondly, many may see that joy was never present in some relationships because of the impact of their fathers on their lives. In Amir’s case, Baba was disappointed not to be graced with the archetypal Afghan son of the 1970’s that was tall, strong, sportive, willing to carry on the family name, but perhaps more importantly being able to stand up in himself.
The second principle is that the therapist provides the client with unconditional positive regard. The final principle is the therapist shows empathetic understanding to the client. The second principle is most important to me. If I were choosing therapy as a possible solution, I would want to be in an extremely positive environment. That is not to say that the other forms of therapy do not use these principles, but they are not necessarily at the core of the therapy.
Both honest mistakes that he didn’t even know he made. The ignorance shown towards Lennie in the novel was due to the time period and the people’s lack of knowledge. People in the story like “The boss” just thought that Lennie wasn’t smart because he just didn’t talk much unless it was to his best friend George. There was ignorance in Raymond because his brother thought that he could remove Ray from his schedules at his home and take him with him. The Ignorance was that Ray needed those schedules or he will have a fit.
While sitting in the restaurant and she began her usually tyrants of debatable conversation topics, as soon as the husband says something that is the opposite of what she says she starts in on him, except this time he just says nothings because at this point he is feeling embarrassed and do not want to fuel the fire. He gives short word answers that soon start agreeing with her and telling her she is right just to get her to calm down. She doesn’t stop, we want to get up from the