Compare/Contrast Why do parents make their children do things they do not want to do? This question is asked my many children around the world today. In “Kaffir Boy” by Mark Mathabane and “Two Kinds” by Amy Tan, two children are faced with pressure from their moms to be successful and receive a good education. Amy and Mark do not understand the reasoning behind their mothers’ ambitions to push them. One begins to understand that his mom is pushing him for his own good and it is what is best for him.
Direct Quotation: bell hooks says, “Being hurt by parenting adults rarely alters a child’s desire to be loved and be loved by them [parents]. Among grown-ups who were wounded in childhood, the desire to love and be loved by uncaring parents persists, even when there is a clear acceptance of the reality that is love will never be forthcoming” (30). Paraphrase: According to bell hook, when children are hurt by their parents their opinion on love rarely change. But when children grow up, even when they accept reality, they are wounded from these acts and they still carry a desire to be loved. (30).
Within the story there are many themes that can be interpreted; Two of which are that a parents love for their children may end up spoiling them therefore making them unappreciative, and that the more dependant society becomes towards technology the more potentially harmful it may become. The theme that a parent’s love for their children may make them spoiled and unappreciative is displayed many times throughout the short story. When the mother of the family says to the father “We’ve given the children everything they ever wanted. This is our reward – secrecy, disobedience?” (Pg.32) the parents in the family are reminiscing about how they bought their kids “the nursery” and how now the kids are now lying to them about what they are doing in it. If the parents of the family taught their kids respect and discipline instead of buying them whatever they wanted to keep them happy the kids could be much more appreciative when the got something such as “the nursery” and would not abuse what their parents give them.
Resistant Attachment Resistant attachment is the attachment pattern characterizing infants who remain close to the parent and fail to explore before separation, then are usually distressed when the parent leaves. When the parent returns the infant combines clinginess with angry, resistive behavior. This theory of resistant attachment really interested me because I have witnessed it plenty of times with my boyfriend’s nephew, Noah, and his sister-in-law, Elizavette. When first reading this chapter I thought they had a secure attachment but once I dug a little deeper and we discussed it in class I realized that it was not secure at all. Noah as an infant was very attached to his mother, Elizavette.
A lot of children resent their step parents and this also makes the situation all the more problematic. Lots of step parents have issues with how to discipline or even if to discipline at all. I feel that if my ex-spouse remarried, I would want the new wife to treat my child just as I would. If he or she needed to be chastised then it would be her responsibility to do it. If I were a step parent I would expect the parents to be completely okay with me treating the child in the same manner that they would.
Disobeying one’s family is an act that requires a lot of courage. Families set rules within the household to maintain their families beliefs. Children generally obey these rules because they fear of getting disowned or punished by the elders. In Billy Elliot and Funny Boy, the rule of “gender roles” is strictly enforced in the families. Billy and Arjie had difficulty dealing with this rule because they enjoyed participating in feminine activities.
The Bell Jar Essay Thesis: Buddy Willard Esther's ex, pressures her into bad situations and to do things she has never done before due to his character issues and lack of respect for Esther. Buddy Willard is Esther's former boyfriend. He's the kind of guy that, in a mothers perspective is always trying to get you to be more like him. And if it's from a girls perspective, he's the kind of guy that your mother is always trying to set you up with because he's her idea of perfection, contrary to what your idea of perfection is. No matter how great he seems as a boy, you know there has to be something terribly wrong with him to make your mother like him so much.
This is not right or fair for the children growing up, because both parents should be in their lives daily to help in the upbringing. What is sad to see is a single mother raising children, doing her best, but lacking the other half of the "Parent Team", what is even more disturbing is to see a single mother trying to raise a son in this society that we live in, knowing that has to be a difficult task. Teaching a Boy to Be a Man Growing up as a kid you were use to seeing two-parent households, you saw the mothers tending to the daughters and the fathers tending to the sons. Both parents played in the raising of their child(ren). As time has passed it has become normal to see a single mother raising her child(ren).
Boys will often be given more responsibility and status as parents often want him to grow up and be the ‘ man of the house’ where as it can be said that girls are treated as dependant on parents and as if they are vulnerable and therefore need protection .So it’s not really true that all young people face this kind of just discriminated but instead that it is more gender specific. Another way young people are discriminated is through discrimination within the work place because of these pre-conceived stereotypes based around biological ideas that young people are unable to look after themselves and should be dependent on their parents. Youths are discriminated within the workplace through a lower average wage than people who are older this is specific to age which means people under 18 automatically are in a worse financial position than older people. Employers are more likely to keep younger people in lower positions within the company where bosses can use younger people and pay them the lowest amount possible meaning the most profit. This means that young people are unlikely to progress within the workplace due to this discrimination.
These parents believe it is their responsibility to provide for their children and that their children have no right to tell the parent how best to do this. The tough love style of parenting is the "tough love" style is used by many parents, though it is still too early to say what percentage of American parents use this style parents who adopt the tough love style of parenting tend to display high degrees of demandingness and low levels of responsiveness with their children These parents tend to engage in one-way communication The difference is that these parents are more likely than authoritarian parents to