Sex Lies Essay

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SEX, LIES AND CONVERSATION BY TANNEN DEBORAH A dose reading of sex, lies, and conversation by Deborah tannen reveals to us how differently men and women perceive conversation in their relationship, most wives want their husbands to be first and foremost conversational partners but few husbands share this expectation of their wives. Tannen describes how difference in communities start in childhood socialization by sharing secret and feelings, girls’ intimacy is the fabric of relationship. A conversation is the cornerstone of friendship ``where as young boys build relationships by doing things together, boys tend to hang out in larger group so most struggle to avoid subordinate position in the group intimate conversation ,it tends to be like a form of weakness for boys and men because it makes them feel inferior or ``like a child listening to adults or an employee to a boss``tannen studied video tapes from her own research and experiments as well as from other colleagues of young children and adults making to their same sex best friends. Within all ages, she concluded that the girls and women faced each other with direct eye contact but the boys and men wouldn’t face each other but would glance back at each other every now and then. When men aren’t giving the women that same direct eye contact, the women assume that the men aren’t even paying attention. ``the tendency of men to face away can give women the impression they aren’t listening even when they are. Another habit that tannen describes in her essay is the switching of topics. ‘switching topic is another habit that gives women the impression men aren’t listening, especially when they switch a topic about themselves `` when it comes to women in conversation , they will ask probing questions, exert general concern, and express agreement and understanding. Men dismiss each other’s problems very simply and
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