Everyone is starting to care more about how people see them, what social standing they are in and focusing too much attention on unrealistic dreams/goals that they are forgetting about how they see themselves, social standings do not mean anything and that there is more important things to focus on. This is demonstrated by the characters behaviours in The Great Gatsby and The Bluest Eye. Even though everyone was made to be their own unique person, different from everyone else, it can be hard sometimes when you are surrounded by peers and think you are not good enough. Pecola from The Bluest Eye is a prime
We don’t have control of everything in our lives like we thought we did when we were using. In our disease we were dealing with a destructive, violent power greater than ourselves. We need to learn to live differently now and not take control, because half the time, or most of the time it doesn’t work anyways. After we realize this, we become a little happier than were before. It is a process, but like they say “Let go and Let
Everyone makes mistakes, but those mistakes are ultimately how lessons are learned. Without choices and decisions to make, life would be redundant and meaningless. Choices give different lives diversity. The decisions people make are based on their form of personality, and with every fork in the road, they are giong to make the same kind of decisions every time. People can change their fate by changing the decisions they make in the process.
Self-Awareness includes understanding ourselves. No one is perfect and of understanding of ourselves, our fears, the things which excite us can help to kive in the greater world and in harmony with others. Self-Awareness also includes the basics such as being clear about what we like to do and what we do not like. It is all about understanding and feeling comfortable with one’s self behavior. According to Northup (2007) in today’s fast paced world, change will happen and will affect everyone.
I then realized that the wall I had constructed to keep what I felt was wrong about my new environment away was simultaneously preventing the positive aspects from effecting me as well. At this point is when I regained my briefly lost self-assurance and knew that I was never any less competent than the best and the brightest at Jordan, but that I needed to study and apply myself (methods I had not always practiced so vigorously in the past). I opened my mind, and a true understanding for diversity found it’s way in. I understand now that regardless of the differences and even the similarities of a group of people should not justify the intolerance for one another. I also believe my experiences have enhanced my communication with those whose backgrounds, opinions, and/or lifestyles contrast with mine.
MASLOW’S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS Rather than focusing on what malfunction people have he concentrated his efforts on trying to figure out what makes things go right for a person that allows a person successfully achieve their greatest potential and what motivates us to achieve self-actualization. According to Maslow every person is inclined to move up the hierarchy. Regrettably, the process is thrown off course due to inability to attain the low-level needs. Life experiences that can include termination of relationships, the loss of a job, and other personal disappointments can make a person waiver between the levels of the hierarchy. According to this hierarchy the way that belonging needs and self-esteem needs currently apply to me is Self-Actualization.
In the Pursuit of Perfect by Tal Ben-Shahar, he sheds some light into the possibility of obtaining a happy life even with the struggles and challenges that may come our way. It is how we tackle these obstacles and avoid being a perfectionist and adopting an Optimalistic approach. Tal Ben-Shahar provides a step-by-step process to conquer the fear of failure and by taking these tools we learn and apply them to our love life and our lives in general. Failure is a word that most of us don’t want to hear or even experience. We do everything we can to steer away from failing by putting a ton of pressure on ourselves, creating intense anxiety and ultimately being unhappy.
We are encouraged to focus on all the bad things that may happen especially from our news and media telling us how things are not as good as they used to be. Another reason people fear change because it is the unknown. Lack of knowledge creates fear. People become comfortable with the status quo. So, even when something changes for the better, it takes energy to accept it.
The idea is to take something seen as a negative and turn it into a positive. Often times team conflicts can be a waste of time and energy, and become very discouraging and distracting for the progress of the team. When you are working and learning in a team environment you have to plan for there to be differences and issues that may arise. Establish rules for the team to
It is more than just asking “how did that go”. I must accept receiving negative feedback as an opportunity to learn with the understanding that I have an issue with criticism. The worst part is that I could probably tell everyone my own faults before they even tell me. I tend to let my pride and the fact that I have always been successful in the past blind me into thinking that I know better than the people whose lives are entrusted with me. I strive to better understand that I have a direct impact on the people that work under me.