Most kids do not want their parents to divorce. A bad marriage can become worse when kids are involved, especially during a divorce. Kids are always the people in the middle watching and listening even from a distance. The children in a bad divorce case are asked to choose a side if not one would be chosen for them. Some kids feel betrayed by their separated parents.
As parents we encourage our children to become independent and when they do, we feel lost and normally do not really want to let go. We miss instructing them, their dependency and being a guiding force. And if anyone felt the way I did when our son left home, “what do I do now?” It took me longer to recover than it did with our daughter and honestly I have not fully recuperated from the separation. But I did recognize that it is a normal reaction to be sad when your child leaves home and even go into their room and sit there for a while, just do not allow depression to set in. This is also a happy moment, now you have the opportunity to see the revealing of what you have taught your child come to fruition.
I moved in with my boyfriend. After giving birth to my healthy baby boy my grandmother came to my house every day and helped me with my baby boy. I was young so I did not know anything about raising a baby. I was still a kid myself. She taught me how to raise my son.
These dates gave us one on one time together without my other siblings around. My mother could focus more on me as an individual. Since becoming a parent myself, I learned the time my mother and I spent together was her practicing effective parenting. Effective parenting is when a parent goes over and beyond to stay connected with their child. As a mother or father this is very important to practice when raising children.
Title: Patient Parent Specific Purpose: To inform my audience how to be more patient when it comes to parenting. Patience is probably the key skill that a parent needs to master when it comes to dealing with kids. It always seems so simple and easy to lose patience and yet so difficult and sometimes almost impossible to find more of it. Of course it's impractical to be patient all the time trying to cover up the true frustration you feel inside, but try these tricks sometime and see the wonders you create in your relationship with your kids. I’m sure many of y’all that have kids find yourself at a point in time whereas you become impatient with your children for many different reasons.
Over the years, many parents in blended families have come to me to talk about the subject of disrespect. In some cases, their step-kids didn't respect them, and in others, their biological child did not respect their new spouse. The truth is a child may never respect his step-parent, but he does have to know that he can't get away with being rude or obnoxious to them. The only way to achieve the desired behavior is to be certain you and your spouse are united in making sure that your kids treat you with respect. Lay Down the Ground Rules from the Start If you haven't done so already, sit down with the kids in your blended family and lay out some ground rules.
The short story “Two kinds” by Amy Tan is a personal heartbreaking story. It exhibits the conflicts in personalities, and the struggle between the child and parents. One now and then comes across many stories even in real life where he/she sees the sense of failure of expectation that the parents show, and there are cases where the parents try to live vicariously through their children. The parents believe that this is in the best interest of their children, and that causes them to be so motivated. Yes, of course the issue of family values, and morals should be taught to children at an early age.
I always knew my parents were going to be divorced someday, because all they did was argued. People say that you should stay together for the sake of the children, but is that what the children want. Children grow up in a household with parents who don’t get along or affected for the rest of their lives. * Divorce can be difficult, especially for children who have friends with parents that are still married. It often leaves them feeling ashamed of your family.
Divorce affects each member of the family which children experience it differently. Parents should sit down with their children and discuss the situation, but not going into detail, that would give mixed feelings towards the parent that is in fault. Even though parents are getting a divorce, they still are the most important people in a child’s life. Children tend to feel lonely, depressed, and rejected because of the situation. Children’s emotions, feelings, and how they cope with depends on how the parents display their coping skills (Lewis, 1999).
The Influence of Grandparents In the stories “Inspired Eccentricities” and “Spirit,” both by Bell Hooks, the main characters really take after their grandparent(s) and learn a lot from them despite what their parents might think. In “Inspired Eccentricities,” the daughter really looks up to Baba and Daddy Gus even though her mother tells her to ignore most everything that they say because she doesn’t want her daughter to end up like them. In “Spirit,” the daughter gets all of the spirit that she has from her grandmother, and since the dad does not like his kids having any spirit, he tries to break her of her spirit whenever she or any of her siblings does something wrong. “Inspired Eccentricities” is about a child who really looks up to her grandparents. She explains everything about her grandparents to us and how odd they are compared to normal people, but how much she loves them for that.