Relationship and Marriage Essay

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“Marriage Is No Fairytale” Knowing your marriage is not going to be a fairytale is important, nevertheless, I didn’t realize this and had to learn the hard way. I am convinced that many newly married couples don’t understand what it takes to make a marriage work. For instance my marriage started off Rocky until we learned what the real meaning of marriage, talk about the problem in a productive way and find compromise. Marriage is hard and unlike fairytales there not a one size fits all approach to the problems associated with marriage. Modern culture would make you believe that everyone has one true love; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize you’re potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; that nothing lasts forever. All those modern-day assumptions are, in my view are wrong. Half of all the couples marrying today will end in divorce. Not too long ago, it was not shocking to hear that a couple was celebrating their twenty-fifth, thirtieth, or even fiftieth wedding anniversary. To increase the probability of a long and satisfying marital relationship there are a few things we need to understand. Marriage today is far more complex than twenty years ago. In the 1950’s roles for men and women were clearly defined. Each partner knew what was expected of them by their family and sociality. Each partner filled their expectations; there was a good chance that the marriage would last. Personality styles were prescribed. A man’s role was supposed to be strong, silent, competent, unemotional, problem-solvers, good providers, handy around the house and protectors. A Woman’s role was supposed to be good cooks, housekeepers, seamstresses, religious and nurturers to the family. Men and women for the most part, didn’t care or focus their partner’s areas of marriage, as long
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