They often act more as a friend to the child than a parent. Children that are raised using the permissive style of parenting are often considered spoiled and unruly. They may tend to have drug problems and behavior problems in adolescence due to the fact that they have never had to control their behavior because they always seem to “get their
Parenting styles are a combination of parental circumstances, habits, and emotional patterns that define the relationships between parent and child. This essay investigates the four main parenting styles from which questions emerge about the effectiveness of each. As we explore the possibilities of each style, please keep in mind, parenting style is meant to define normal variations and circumstances in parenting. Parenting is a complex activity that includes many specific behaviors that work individually and together to influence the outcome of child rearing. Parenting styles are very diverse and usually reflect that of one’s own life experiences.
The short story called, "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." by 'Neil Millar' shows the most respectful approach of parents to their children rather than "Be-ers and Doers" by 'Budge Wilson' in many ways. I feel that the story by "Neil Millar" is told in a calmer manner of speaking rather than the one written by "Budge Wilson". Everyone grows up differently but the effects grow depending on the matter of time when you are taught to become responsible. Every parent teaches their child different aspects at different times. Some are earlier than others and some must be later.
The Four Parenting Styles The four parenting styles are known by parenting researchers as Permissive, Authoritarian, Authoritative, and Uninvolved/Neglectful. All four styles are considered to be “normal” styles of parenting. Quiz – What Type of Parent are you? Permissive If you chose more “A’s” than anything else, you are probably a “Permissive” Parent. Permissive Parents tend to be more responsive to their children’s needs than demanding.
These children, however, have poor social skills, and show signs of low self-esteem, while having high levels of depression (Partner, 2009). Authoritative Parents Authoritative, Demanding and Responsive parents (Partner, 2009) also set limits but understand where their children are coming from. They monitor their children but not in a controlling way. They support their children with rewards for good behavior as opposed to punishment for bad behavior. They see their children in a positive light and want the best for them individually,
“(These) values pass on mother-to-mother combine with the natural instincts to love, support and nurture.” If a person was raised spending most of the time on the things that were being bad influence for them such as wrestling or teen’s reality show or their parents were too busy working and did not have enough time to check if they were keeping up with the homework and reading. It is pretty obvious that the child is going to have a great amount of difficulty as they grow up. I agree that raising children is not an easy job but if I was raised in a very bad way and thought my parents did not put enough effort in my upbringing I would not want my children to think the same about me and go through the same rough path of life as I did. Childhood is what makes a child’s base and it is important to pay close attention to their childhood and teach them the difference between good and bad. So, when they grow up they will not have any problem in picking the right path.
Teenagers, like everyone else, want to be treated with respect and seen as individuals with there own ideas. "Baumrind's seminal work on the classification of parenting styles has profoundly influenced research on parenting and its effects on children" (Brenner and Fox, 1999 p.1). "Baumrind found that there are four different types of parenting styles: authoritarian-parents who are punitive and focus on gaining a child's obedience to parental demands rather than responding to the demands of the child; permissive-parents who are more responsive to their children but do not set appropriate limits on their behavior; authoritative-parenting who are flexible and responsive to the child's needs but still enforce reasonable standards of conduct; and neglecting-parents who are under involved with their children and respond minimally to either the child's needs or the child's behavior"(Brenner and Fox, 1999, p.1). "Parenting style is defined as a stable complex of attitudes and beliefs that form the context in which parenting behaviors occur" (Brenner and Fox, 1999 p.1). Brenner et al.
Like the mother, permissive parents often tend to rarely enforce rules or discipline their children. The Permissive Parenting Style is an extremely relaxed approach where parents are generally warm, nurturing and affectionate. However, they are overly accepting of their children's behaviour, good or bad (Positive Parenting Centre). Children often get to make their own decisions and don’t have to live up to any expectations. Parents with this style take on the role of "friends” rather than parents.
Permissive parents have children who, in many ways, share the undesirable characteristics of children of authoritarian parents. Children with permissive parents tend to be dependent and moody, and they are low in social skills and self-control (Feldman, 2014). Healthy Family System A healthy family system can be noticed by its living arrangement. The way a family live such as the size of the family can determine a good healthy family system Real life experiences and upon observation of my own, parents with one or two kids are able to give more attention to their children than parents with several children. Children who grow up in a household with just one or two children tend to thrive more in society and not be withdrawn oppose to children who grow up in a household with several children tend to have a lack of attention.
The children are the ones that will carry on our society and it is our jobs to teach them morals and values. The most important factor in children’s lives is domestic trends. Children are very impressionable and look to adults for guidance and role models. There are now many types of family units including: single parents, divorced parents, married couples, homosexual couples and other relatives acting as parents. Studies done by Sara McLanahan and Gary D. Sandefur, they had found that children raised by single parents were worse off in life than children that were raised by both parents regardless of race, educational background or if the parent was remarried.