Outline the Primary Skills in Counselling

2471 Words10 Pages
We are in a forever-changing world and we are forever changing but sometimes some of us become stagnant on life’s paths and need some guidance to find ourselves again. We create our future all the time with our thoughts and actions, some thoughts are destructive and some thoughts are constructive, it is our awareness that helps us see the experience but at times that awareness of the moment pass us by and we miss a part of our self. Some of us hold back and put up barriers when we think we have to talk about deep personal stuff. Everyone has some issues with life and imbalances from childhood, but what some people tend to do is close the closet and bury traumas deep in the subconscious so we do not have to deal with them. We seem to think by doing so everyday life will be fine, but what happens things come back to haunt us when we least expect it. If only we all talked more about our issues, we would start the healing process quicker by dealing with our demons in the here and now by accepting things and situations as they are so we can start to move on and grow from the conditioned past and find a deeper sense of self. Before any therapeutic relationship can begin to grow, the counsellor and client need to form a working alliance, according to Petruska Clarkson (1999, pp. 42-43) ‘in the first phases of the counselling relationship, emotional and mental energy is concerned with forming a working alliance with the counsellor’. Real therapy then begins when the client has experienced the core conditions and begins to trust the therapist; they start to build a relationship and work together to explore the field between them. The core conditions for effective help The client needs to feel ‘Unconditional Positive Regard’ for him or her to start to blossom and feel free. The counsellor needs to show ‘Empathy’ for the client to dig deep through the
Open Document