Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

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Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex In his book “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”, John Gray presents an allegory as if men and women are from different planets. The needs of men and women are different, and they also have different ways of dealing with stress or asking for what they need. We fall in love and everything is magical, but then the toil of daily life takes its toll. Men expect women to think and behave like men, and women expect men to feel and respond like women. In this failure to meet expectations, men and women become resentful and demanding, and love dies even with all the brilliant and complex psychological models available. Love can survive if men and women can communicate and appreciate their differences. John Gray presents a useful version of the Golden Rule. The Golden Rule tells us to do unto others what we would have them do unto us. We want our spouses to understand our needs and desires, and then fulfill them. That means that we must seek to understand the needs and desires of our spouses, and then fulfill them. A conversation of people who do not understand this principal might sound like this: Mary: There is so much to do at work, and I have no time to breathe! Tom: Why don’t you quit that job? You don’t need it. Mary: But I like my job. They just expect me to change everything at a moment’s notice. Tom: Don’t listen to them. Just do what you can do. Mary: I am! What do you think I am doing all day!? I even forgot to call my aunt. Tom: Don’t worry. She will understand. Mary: Don’t you know what she is going through? She really needs me right now. Tom: You worry too much. That’s why you are always unhappy. Mary: I am not always unhappy. Can’t you just listen to me? Tom: I am listening to you. Mary: Why do I
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