Throughout Maya Angelou’s entire childhood, she hated how she looked, and her entire being. In chapter 4, she tells of her playmates calling her “shit color” and having a “head of black steel wool”, while Bailey was “small, graceful, and [...] lauded for his velvet-black skin,” (17). Angelou continuously compares herself to her older brother, Bailey. But as she grows older, she realizes that “everybody is worth everything” (interview). Angelou forgives herself for not loving herself, and begins to gain self-respect.
Friendship is a very important factor in the book, without it characters in the book wouldn’t be able to cope. Pavarna finds consolation in her friendship with Shauzia, who is also pretending to be a boy. They both have problems with their life and family and it helps them to talk about it. Pavarna’s mother starts feeling very depressed when her father is arrested. Her old friend Mrs Weera helps get her life back together.
Some kids feel betrayed by their separated parents. Miscommunication between parents and kids enters the relationship. They feel they have to take care of themselves, to put matter in their own hands. These effects damages kids, and most often Children whose parents have divorced are more and more the targets of abuse. These abuse often lead to low self-esteem and in some extreme cases
The child could also feel a sad disappointed feeling because their parent won’t give them the attention a child should be receiving or a child could just be being neglected all together possibly by the parent just not caring, but I will tell you all about these things in my paragraphs below. First, Physical abuse: where a parent physically hits the child. The child will have unexplained burns, bites, bruises, broken bones, or black eyes. Also if the child screams and fusses that they don’t want to go or when the time comes to go home. A child could also feel as if any adult that approaches then could be harm to them.
This can cause a child to be confused and stressed because of the love the child has for both parents. Those all create a challenging new family circumstance in which to live. For children, divorce can be negative emotion suck as bitterness, stress, sad, confusing, emotional pain, fear, feeling abandoned, feeling betrayed and loss of self-esteem. At any age, kids may feel uncertain or angry at the prospect of mom and dad splitting up. When their divorced parents keep on fighting.
They may not do it on purpose but whether they realize it or not, it can destroy their family. Fathers should not make their job too much of a priority because it upsets and affects the female parent, a father’s presence helps children’s development, and it can be bad for the fathers health. The biggest problem mothers have with overworked fathers is the lack of attention showed to the child by the father. “We have a one year old who misses his daddy as much as I do.” (healthboards.com). This was written by a female parent on healthboards website.
4. Exposure to conflict between parents: The more the child is witnessing struggles between his parents the more his welfare will be impacted and his self-confidence will decrease because at some point, children tend to blame themselves for the divorce. Matters on which the effects depend (DeBord, 1997). Age of children Destroying the link between parent and child is very critical and parents should take necessary measures related to child-raising before divorce. The knowledge about the divorce effect on children less than three years old is not mature yet but for older children it can be classified as: Infants Infants do not understand divorce but they feel the change in their parent’s attitude.
The divorce can change their life especially parents and also their son. children when separated from a parent will experience a lack of love both. children will respond with aggressive as a result of their parents' divorce 2. parents are the determinants of happiness for their children children need both their parents in educating and teaching them about the world when it became a teenager. if no parents their child's life can be severely affected if they are susceptible to bad things 3. negative effects occur in children due to acts of parents who do not think their child's feelings. children need their parents' attention with primarily still under age.
Sibling rivalry usually continues throughout childhood and it can be very frustrating and stressful to parents. When the kids fight, parents usually punish the older child and take the side of youngest child. It makes that the older child loss the relationship with their parents. One of the most principal’s problems that affect the relationship between siblings, it is that sometimes parents do favoritism only with one child and it makes they can harm and even destroy sibling relationships. For example, in my case, when I was child I was the darling of my mother because I always got good grades in school, my mother said that my sisters should be like me because I was doing my homework on time and was very studious.
Children whose parents were getting divorced might lack of family warmth. They only could get family warmth from their father or mother. Secondly, they possibly have psychological pressure. They might think some children who have a complete family would have discrimination of children whose parents were getting divorced. After that, children whose parents were getting divorced couldn’t get a great family education.