Love vs Infatuation

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The Differences of Love and Infatuation Love and infatuation, two very different things yet they are confused quite often. For a while most people can not tell the different between the two, both can dominate our thoughts and emotions. Jenijoy La Belle writes in “Loofah Is a Man Splendored Thing” that infatuation is in some ways a form of insanity, but ultimately different from love which based on common desires. She makes this conclusion by thinking of infatuation as being illusory and vapid, and also gives many examples of infatuation being by nature irrational. Love however is mutual and realistic, while infatuation requires neither. Infatuation is by nature incompatible with love, due to each others' different bases. Infatuation itself is illusory and vapid. The feelings and thoughts that its puts in our body causes us to have obsessive feelings and do crazy “stunts”. As Jenijoy La Belle writes, “A friend swiped a loofah from the bathroom of a man whom she was keen—though he was barely aware of her existence” (2). This is vapid because it is obviously based on nothing if he doesn't even notice her, so it can't be meaningful that is not the way someone pictures love to be. La Belle also shows how infatuation isn't true feelings with, “But remember that these dizzy feelings are transitory and illusory” (3). There she shows how with all her experience that she can plainly claim that infatuation is temporary and unreal. She even describes these feelings as being dizzy which they can be, what a person feels during infatuation is very confusing and overwhelming. Decisions made by someone during infatuation are by nature irrational. When two people first meet they will make decisions that are ultimately made in haste and are not thought out thoroughly. Jenijoy La Belle uses this example, “That early stage of attraction when were carried away by extravagant passion
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