But, what will happen when one day that attention cannot be given because one decide to do something differently, then the other person will feel like they are not being loved or wanted anymore. Therefore, in a relationship, each must communicate to the other to let him or she knows what is going on for sudden changes. In my second marriage, I asked my husband to let us get to know each other. This we did by writing down the things he would like or do not like to see happened in our marriage and what can we do to avoid conflicts. We started out great, but ended up lap sided because ever since I started school, he got all jealous and accusing me of cheating when I am doing my school work.
Whereas, the couples must love each other unconditionally and decide on choosing each other without the input of anyone else but themselves, it is assumed that “married couples should be best friends, sharing their most intimate feelings and secrets. They should express affection openly but also talk candidly about problems. And of course they should be sexually faithful to each other.” (Coontz 381) In my opinion, I do not agree with Stephanie Coontz saying George Shaw theory of marriage has unrealistic expectations even though each culture has their own interpretation of marriage. No matter what each culture is different, if they believe that having more than one wife or having cospouses it is their choice and some will stay true to the values they were raised on. Finally, Coontz brought forth if someone is not marrying for love but just for the status then what is the point of getting married.
Almost all people think that getting married the one who he or she loves is natural. But there are some situations when someone cannot get married to him or her because it is socially unacceptable. The definition of marriage for different people means different things. Marriage has some forms, but nowadays the same sex marriage is the most discussed topic. So in this essay I’m going to compare the traditional marriage and the same sex marriage.
Gay Marriage Amanda Tolland SOC: Introduction to ethics & Responsibility Instructor: Wolfe Brandon 01/02/2012 When two people any two people are in love, they should be able to openly express their love for each other by becoming married. However, not everyone is legally able to get married. A love shared by two people of the same sex cannot be binding because of petty laws that prohibit gay and lesbian couples to get married. It is ridiculous that two people in love cannot get married and commit to a lifetime together if they are of the same sex. Love is love many people in today's society believe gay and lesbian marriage is wrong and if you are one of them, I am here to convince you otherwise.
Communication in Happy Marriages Patrick Thompson COM200: Interpersonal Communication Instructor Debra Austin May 20th, 2012 I believe that communication is very important in not just marriages but also when you are dating. If you do not know the person that you are dating or married to then I believe that the relationship would be setting up to fail. I can say that my fiancée and I have decent conversations but I am pretty sure that there is a lot more that we could learn about each other. Due to the lack of conversation between my fiancée and me early on in our relationship, there were hardships. After almost coming to a breaking point we had to learn how to conversate in a way that didn’t come off as hostile or not actually hearing
Many people view infatuated love as irresponsible, immature and blind love built solely on unreasonable passion, which could simply stem from a sexual attraction. Empty love occurs when a person is solely looking for a commitment with no interest in intimacy or passion. This could simply be a result of not wanting to be alone in the world. It is built on the promise that the couple will maintain their relationship in the future. Fatuous love is caused from the combination of passion and commitment, without a sense of intimacy.
Occasionally set aside time to check in with each other on changing expectations and goals. If a couple ignores difficult topics for too long, their relationship is likely to drift into rocky waters without their noticing. Respect Changes and Accept your differences. What you want from a relationship in the early months of dating may be quite different from what you want after you have been together for some time. Respecting and valuing these changes is healthy.
When it came to relationships it could be anything from marrying someone of the same sex to not marrying at all. There were new, more lenient guidelines to having a relationship in the 21st century, and they continued to evolve. Individuals were now aiming “for personal growth and deeper intimacy through more open communication and mutually shared disclosures about feelings with their partners” (428). The social norms of family life were becoming less apparent, and marriage in itself was growing to be less common. Marriage had transformed from the mid-20th century to the 21st century in monumental ways.
Being able to love is something you have to have within yourself. The three dimensions of passion, intimacy and commitment will continually take great work to continue a growing relationship; it is not a given in yourself or with whom you chose to love. Many miss the opportunity to experience such a love because they fail to realize it takes work. You can have the passion in the relationship; which is more the desire to want to be with that person, and you can have the intimacy of the relationship; which is the feelings of being close to someone, but if you do not have the commitment in the relationship then there is no foundation to build on. The commitment is where the two of you made a decision to love one another and maintain that relationship.
In our society genders roles have become less important to a typically married couple. In this day in age you see women who are unwed with children playing both gender roles and vice versa for men as well. Although gender roles in a marriage are important, you will find that over the years a marriage is more teamwork, not specially a gender role. For instance, in the past society saw the man to be the one to take the leadership role in a marriage, presumably playing an active part in making decision for the household and ensuring that the expenses were taken care of. The woman on the other hand was expected to play the loyal role to the husband, supporting him in the decisions made and the accomplishments the man made that ensured prosperity in the home.