The majority of us struggle with completing the challenges we set ourselves and sabotage our efforts. Why do people for example abandon their new year’s resolution weeks or sometimes even days after they have agreed they would stick to them? And why do some people with similar backgrounds or education do better than others? A lot of it goes down to the way we are brought up, in other words the programming we received from our parents and society and which gets stored in our subconscious mind. Every time our conscious mind is getting some new information that is different from the one which is already stored it is very critical towards it and rejects it straight away.
Also we must take into account that grief or loss does not always mean the death of somebody. It can relate to the loss of a job or partnership. Moving house or locating to a new area. (2) However in this essay I will be looking at grief and loss as bereavement. It seems to me that it is the fear of change that we do not like in our lives, and this starts from the day we are born.
A lack of communication takes everyone to a place they never wanted to; Abilene. The fear of going against the group is a problem that must be overcome. Eventually the group realizes that they didn’t want to go and would have been happier and safer if they shared opinions. Groups making decisions without discussing choices and opinions of it’s members are likely to have many unpleased
And as such all humans will constantly find themselves caught by the inextricable ropes of conflict, actions subjugated until they untangle themselves from its exasperating grip. It is not a choice, to be submerged in the cauldron of conflict, but it is the decisions of a man or woman that will determine whether or not they emerge. Adversity, in its many forms, is the one constant in life. Whilst it would be erroneous and bleak to suggest that all conflict is unavoidable, those which are most important - most defining - are sure to find their way into our lives. The path each person takes – or is lead on – is defined by not only how they are confronted by conflict, but also how they perceive it, and their belief that they can overcome.
Identity Identity is the looking glass in which we perceive ourselves and how other people recognise us to be. Our identities are always in a state of change, they are changed by our experiences, our values, beliefs, morals and how we react to different circumstances. Sometimes people can have no control over their identity because their peers have decided for them to be who they want but this to can change. Everything about us including our identity is in a constant state of change. This brought to our attention in various texts, three texts in particular which I know represent this idea perfectly are, “Vanishing Acts” by Jodi Picoult, “The Kid Identity” by Colby Selter and “This Is Who I am” by Vanessa Amorosi.
They both describe how one goes through life learning from life’s struggles. Paulo Coelho says in The Alchemist “We are afraid of losing what we have, whether it’s our life or our possessions and property, but this fear evaporates when we understand that our life stories and the history of the world are written in the same hand” (Coelho 76). What Paulo is talking about, is that we are afraid of loss. One does not want to lose their belongings, but once one understands that one’s life needed to lose those things in order to become who they are in life. In comparison Gary Allan sings “Life ain’t always beautiful some days I miss your smile I get tired of walking all these lonely miles” (Gary Allan).
What you are trying to avoid won't disappear until you face it I think this quote is true, because it always happens; when we have a problem or situation including problems in school, with teachers, classmates or maybe with friends or in our house or family, sometimes we prefer to avoid it, thinking it will solve by itself and we continuously think about the problem and how to solve it, and we get nervous about it, but we don’t do anything to solve it, just avoid it and avoid it, which makes it worst. When we finally decide to affront it, because we have no way out or we just get enough of this problem or situation and it turns great or at least not as bad as we though we see how easy it was to solve it, and that it would be a hundred times better to do that at the beginning instead of avoiding it. One day I had a situation that goes perfectly with this phrase. About 3 years ago I borrow mi friend’s headphones because I didn’t have any and she wasn’t using them at that time. But like 2 weeks later I was near a pool and the headphones fell into the pool, I took them out of the water quickly and try them to see if they still work but obviously they didn’t.
My fathers departure was a major turning point in my life, it changed a lot of things for me and was very emotional. And just like Odysseus return, when he came back it was even more emotional and it was even a bit strange learning to live with him being present in the household each day. Some of the tasks I took on or had become responsible for where no longer required of me. Also, I noticed my mother was always very concerned for me, being her only son, and didn't want to see me grow up. When Tele.
We are in a forever-changing world and we are forever changing but sometimes some of us become stagnant on life’s paths and need some guidance to find ourselves again. We create our future all the time with our thoughts and actions, some thoughts are destructive and some thoughts are constructive, it is our awareness that helps us see the experience but at times that awareness of the moment pass us by and we miss a part of our self. Some of us hold back and put up barriers when we think we have to talk about deep personal stuff. Everyone has some issues with life and imbalances from childhood, but what some people tend to do is close the closet and bury traumas deep in the subconscious so we do not have to deal with them. We seem to think by doing so everyday life will be fine, but what happens things come back to haunt us when we least expect it.
Low self-esteem can affect a person’s daily life, relationships, school experience and work ethic. They may not be able to perform to the best of their ability because they are afraid to take challenges and face life. When it comes to low self-esteem and intervention there are a lot of changes that I would like to see in this area. I would like to see everyone living and doing things that are up to their full potential and bringing out the best in themselves. When it comes to low self-esteem if you are being encouraged by a group of people or individuals on a daily basis then you will to start to believe in yourself as well.