In contrast, the same idea of a woman following her own mind is considered normal in American society. June and the rest of the daughters are being raised to think being obedient is best but in a society that encourages freedom. Marriage is another cultural difference the mothers have with their daughters. The mothers were raised to believe they were never to remarry after their husbands have died. The daughters disagree and believe divorce is ok.
Tan likes to show Lindo through indirect characterization. Lindo would always try to make things right. She would be polite to her new mother in law and when she was with her mother in law she would hold out a treat and say “ For you, Mother” (53). Even though Huang Taitai was not her real mother, Lindo would act as though she was, but before Lindo did this she would turn to her mother and ask for forgivness. This shows that she is a caring girl and she will always try to behave and be nice to every one.
It is other factors such as age and location that contribute to the relationship and determine the level of closeness. Emily’s lack of emotion towards her mother can be attributed to a number of issues in her youth. Since Emily was born, her mother had been working diligently to support the family. To make matters worse, she was only nineteen when Emily was born. Her husband left early on in Emily’s life and her mother was forced to leave her with friends or send her to day care.
Cooking for the family has meaning in each story of The Joy Luck Club, because cooking is a sign of love in Chinese culture. A main point of the novel was the mothers’ wishes to keep the old traditions, and the daughters’ wishes for them to be more understanding of the American culture. Tan and her mother had the same feelings, but, just as the daughters in the book, Tan learns the value of her heritage and embraces it (Kramer 60). Her mother told Tan many stories(Kramer 48). She told many stories about her own life.
Another role is that a wife is to be obedient to their own husbands. This command can be found in Ephesians 5:22, “Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord,” also in 1 Peter 3. It is not meaning that a wife can not have her own thoughts; it is to ensure that the husband and wives work together so that they are not pulling in different directions, but that they are sharing a mutual goal. “To be keepers at home”, is a common role for wives. Since the husband’s role is to go out and provide a living for his family, the wives job is to look after the home.
We watch our family around us and see the importance of being loyal to ourselves and our families. This begins how each of us perceives loyalty in our future relationships. We meet people in life and friendships are created between some of them. We will have a certain loyalty within these friendships. Based upon one’s upbringing, we believe that we will do anything to help and protect a true friendship from harm or misguidance.
This is due to them having bilateral decent. Having bilateral family can be beneficial to San members in time of need. Having this family can provide support and assistance during the times it is needed. The San also practice matrilocality. The text says “Matrilocality allows the bride's parents to make sure the groom treats their daughter properly and to serve as her advocate while she is young and still learning how to support her position.” (3.7).
R.E. Marriage ceremony How does the minister’s welcome demonstrate the meaning of marriage? He/she explains how marriage is a covenant between two people and it should be a happy, joyous ceremony. The minister reminds the congregation that God is important in their experience prior to this moment in time. He/she also elaborates on how necessary love and commitment are in a marriage.
This reminds me of my childhood, because growing up I would have to constantly translate for my mother. She had Trinidadian accent and still spoke in the local Trini dialog. She had a strong grasp on the English langue and is well educated, but her “broken English” did at time make it seem otherwise, unless you were raised in a Caribbean family. In my home it seemed like I was on the island. My mother spoke in normal Trini dialogue, so I would constantly hear phrases such as “Do not cut you nose to patch you bottom” and “If you see you neighbor house catch fire wet yours”.
The contents of their two books are the situation of Chinese American life experiences, family and difficulties within the generational problems that occur between mothers and daughters. In The Woman Warrior and The Joy Luck Club, mothers tell stories to their daughters. They turn to their own experiences and cultural values so their daughters can avoid a tragic fate in America. They talk about the past, the legends passed down from generations and the ghost stories based on the beliefs of Chinese culture. The two stories expose the fate of women suffering from patriarchy and sexism in China.