FATHER/SON RELATIONSHIP Blacky’s relationship with his father is integral in moulding the adolescent that he is. Although the relationship between the two is clearly negative, it somewhat helps him to look past the fatherly influences, and to seek positive role models to assist him through the journey to maturity. Blacky’s self-esteem levels are low due to the negative relationship and he expects no support from his father. His relationship with his mother, the relationships he develops with other men assist Blacky in developing the courage to stand up for what he believes in. During the course of the novel of ‘Deadly Unna?’ the readers are exposed to the negativity between the father and his son.
Similar beliefs and goals regarding gender roles in the context of a family are essential to develop and nurture a strong and fulfilling relationship. In the story, “To Room 19”, Matthew has a positive attitude toward family life; he wants to assume the role of a full time father and husband. He continues to have the dominant role throughout the marriage, maintaining a job that he enjoys and having a social life outside of the confines of his home. In essence, his life rem ains unchanged, so he does not understand the daily pressures that his wife faces alone. In his mind, he is providing for his family.
More than anyone, a boy needs his father to approve of him and teach him how to be a man. Well, his father did not show him the love he required growing up. In all of Paul’s efforts to please his father, he was ignored and inadequate to his father’s expectations. In fact, his father praised a young man that worked as a clerk and insisted that Paul ought to be more like that gentleman. His father refused to give Paul money and argued that he has a job, so he can pay his own expenses.
During Nettles the writer tells us that ‘the boy came seeking comfort’, this shows that the child feels as if he needs to go to his father to feel better and the father feels that it his responsibility to make sure that the boy feels safe and protected, however in The Habit if Light there is no signs that the mother is looking after the children or the children are going to her to seek comfort and better health, this could tell us that she is an independent women that doesn’t need other people around bothering her. Mid-way through the Nettles poem there is a change in the way the story is told, the father starts to get an anger for the ‘green spears’ that caused his son pain, ‘And then I took my billhook, honed the blade And went outside and slashed in fury with it’, this symbolises that the father is trying to defend his child and stop him from being hurt again however in The Habit if Light the poem only seems to get better as the things said about the mother are all positive, it is like all the writer wants to do is show how good the mother is and that she wouldn’t hurt anyone. Overall both poems show
But, it was still difficult for me. I felt at a loss because much of my time had been devoted to their needs. My husband attempted to assist me by finding activities and travel to take my mind off of it. But the feeling of loss still lingered. My husband was neutral about them leaving home and though I knew this was the natural progression of life I felt myself presenting him because he didn’t understand and share my feelings.
In spite of that, he can still see some things they have in common, and Charlie’s love for his father is not seen until his father is in a difficult situation. On the other hand Charlie has a great relationship with his mother. His mother is a person who is social, and bonds with everyone. Here Charlie finds himself comfortable and safe. It sounds like Charlie’s mother is his only family.
Kay argues that Othello is a very self-absorbed man who seeks petty and reassurance in others because of the way he was raised by his mother and the challenges he encountered growing up. Instead of Othello being raised with a close bond to his mother, ensuring high self-confidence and an easier upbringing. Kay argues that Othello didn't have a close relationship with his mother (developed as an infant), which leads to “seeking substitute emotional mirrors for the remainder of his life.” While Kay is correct and justified in stating that Othello is incredibly self-centered and is seeking merely petty by gathering an audience, she is not accurate in her attempts stating that it was caused by his upbringing and lack of a close relationship with his mother. The sources used were printed between 1932-1980 (keeping in mind that this essay was written in 1983), and are completely outdated. And to say that he is in emotional distress is a complete opinion regardless on how many doctors give the diagnosis.
The expected reaction to his father’s rare appearances would be what the child did in the story. He is too young to understand that his father is an important part of his life also. 2. Larry is not reliable as the narrator of events. He is obviously biased against his father and wants his mother’s sole attention.
Meg at first falls back on her father for guidance and security, but soon realizes he cannot provide that. She becomes upset when he does not help her achieve her ultimate goal. She soon realizes that she must do some things on her own and that it would be the only way she would grow and mature. Since my dad was the only one to take care of me, I had a different childhood. I did things on my own a little earlier than others.
Jim’s self-concept is, “I just want to go to school and do the best I can and be normal.” Such as hang out, party a little from time to time, basically living his own life not the life of his father’s. Well I totally can relate to Jims father because, we as parents work as extremely hard for our children because we only want what’s best for them, is it right No, most defiantly not it depressed Jim because he feels like he is doing the best he can do, and his father just don’t understand. That it isn’t as easy for him as it was when he was in school. Jim’s father self-concept of Jim is more positive because he sees in Jim what Jim isn’t able to see, he is motivating him to do better than what he is doing. Sections such as motives, Jim’s father motives were to get good grade and be accomplished.