Irrelevant Question Essay

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Irrelevant Question * PG Bhat, 16 Aug 2011 I teach post-graduate students as a visiting faculty in a college. Some students have been coming late to the classes – not just to my classes, but for all the classes. I tried different tricks, in vain, to motivate them to be punctual. This has been an irritant though the students are very well behaved otherwise. This morning, a student was late by an hour. When I asked reasons for his coming late, he said “traffic jam.” I got annoyed and told, “Don’t give lame excuses,” in front of all his class-mates and then continued teaching. What else can a student answer? He could give any one of some other stock “reasons,” which I would interpret as “excuses.” In this context, he could not have satisfied me with any answer. Also, he does not have a choice not to answer and annoy me by ignoring my question. The situation and the strain was my creation. I knew, but did not then think, that the student has no satisfactory answer. My question did not seek any information, but expressed my dissatisfaction – a statement is framed like a question and an answer is expected. This is neither fair nor does it help in retaining dignity and cordiality. Having asked a question, I should have accepted the answer with full trust as an Adult answer to an Adult question. Instead it was an ulterior transaction with me in Critical Parent ego-state and the student in over-adaptive Child ego-state. A bad cross communication that allowed me to be unhappy with him whatever his response would be. As the student has been coming late regularly, he lacked commitment to studies. If I did not allow him in the class, he would not have minded it, but the overall loss is not desirable. I did not so far succeed in getting any positive changes by imposing consequences like denying entry to the class or deducting marks in internal assessment for such
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