3. Jim believed that he was doing his best in school and felt that his parents had unrealistic expectations for him. Explain, using examples from the video and course concepts, how the father’s self-concept impacted his interaction with Jim. Was it positive or negative? Jim’s father felt that if he could pay his way through college and still make Phi Beta Kappa then Jim could do with his grades.
A gutless fucking wonder!’ When Blacky explains to his father about the storm, Bob insults him rather than swallow his pride and takes his son’s advice on board. The relationship that is shared between Blacky and his father has negatively impacted Blacky’s self-esteem so much that it has led to him not having faith in his own father and to expect no support. During the novel, the desertion that Bob shows toward his son leads Blacky to be more independent, and he learns to expect no support from his father, as he cannot rely on Bob to look after him. The grand final, and Dumby Red’s funeral are examples of when Gary seeks his father’s input,
More than anyone, a boy needs his father to approve of him and teach him how to be a man. Well, his father did not show him the love he required growing up. In all of Paul’s efforts to please his father, he was ignored and inadequate to his father’s expectations. In fact, his father praised a young man that worked as a clerk and insisted that Paul ought to be more like that gentleman. His father refused to give Paul money and argued that he has a job, so he can pay his own expenses.
So the cultural background of these boys had trained them to see life in a much different way until they have Mr. Keating for an English teacher and he gives his “Carpe Diem “speech which greatly changes their perceptions of school, the future, and life. One of the characters Neal Perry struggles with his own demons after the free thinking Mr. Keating has inspired him to discover that he does not want to be the doctor that his father has so much pushed him to be but rather an actor. Acting is what he is passionate about. Neal was motivated and controlled all his life by his father’s wishes. It was a learned response that to get his father’s approval, he must go the route of prep school, medical school, and then a career as a doctor.
Jim’s self-concept is, “I just want to go to school and do the best I can and be normal.” Such as hang out, party a little from time to time, basically living his own life not the life of his father’s. Well I totally can relate to Jims father because, we as parents work as extremely hard for our children because we only want what’s best for them, is it right No, most defiantly not it depressed Jim because he feels like he is doing the best he can do, and his father just don’t understand. That it isn’t as easy for him as it was when he was in school. Jim’s father self-concept of Jim is more positive because he sees in Jim what Jim isn’t able to see, he is motivating him to do better than what he is doing. Sections such as motives, Jim’s father motives were to get good grade and be accomplished.
2. “If my father didn’t fit my ideal of what he should be in his occupation, he certainly didn’t fit my mother’s either” pg 19 Explain this quotation. This quotation refers to David’s father and how his mother had higher expectations of him and wanted him to be ‘fully’ himself. 3. “…a man who tried to turn two ways at once”pg 21 Who is this refering to?
Willy asks his neighbor to take a state test for one of his sons because he wants his son to get a good grade. These lessons that Willy is teaching his sons will not help them in life. In fact it will probably debilitate them. The American dream in which Willy and many other men of the era desires is one in which the children are successful in life and are able to help the parents in old age. By the lessons Willy is teaching his sons, he is keeping himself from
This indicates that he lacks the love from his real father. The boy tries to live up to his fathers expectations, and has a strong bond to his father. Loyalty and being true to your closest is also an important element of the boys behaviour, he protects his father no matter what, and that is a crucial part of the boy´s mental state in this short story. The boy is naive and has high thoughts of his father, these thoughts are shown through the boys’ actions and delighted comments. The boy protects his father when his mother speaks badly of him.
Raleigh's character seems to be very timid from the start he has just left school and in a way has almost continued on with his school days; Denis's' presence at the dugout gives Raleigh a sense of protection like when he was a school. He assumes that it will be fun because he thinks Denis will take an immediate liking to Raleigh like when they were back at school. “Yes, rather! We were at school together..." Raleigh is a family and school friend of Stanhope’s whom he glorifies as a "hero figure". This is not directly spoken out by Raleigh but is discovered in a conversation between Stanhope and Osborne, “Small boys at schools usually have their heroes.
As the movie progresses some of the characters do not change as much as the others do. One boy was pressured into going by their friends and when they find the ulterior motive behind this, they only seek a life of fame and glory after all or for the sake of becoming a hometown hero and to carry on a family name. One member of the group is on an emotional journey because of the confusion surrounding family issues and in particular the death of a sibling that causes him to think that he is confused regarding issues about his family. The journey undertaken by the group of boys has shown to viewers that the slightest journey in life can change a boy to a young man. The movie Stand By Me is seen to be a film where the children in the movie show the end of innocence and the beginning of adulthood.