Identity & Belonging

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There are costs to the individual in belonging to a group It is a fundamental feature of humans to want to belong. We search for this sense of belonging through many ways including, sports, recreation, school, work and religion. Belonging to certain groups can require us to change or conform to ideas or rules that come at a consequence to us physically, morally and mentally. Our values beliefs and morals can all be challenged and we can at times adapt them so as to not lose that sense of belonging. At the simplest level, living in mainstream society exacts material costs. The film skin which is based in the time of the Apartheid in South Africa brings us the story of a women called Sandra who is born black from a white family. As Sandra becomes older she finds herself belonging and hanging out with the ‘blacks’. This, during the times of Apartheid, was largely frowned upon as associating with the blacks was considered wrong as there was lawful racial segregation in South Africa. Sandra’s choice to belong to the blacks, lead her life from that of relative wealth and security to one of poverty and, at one point, apparent poverty. A cost is further suffered by individuals in belonging to a group through conformity. Our obedience to follow social codes and standards set by the groups we belong to is a cost we make even if not of our individual choice. Frankie Addams’s in The Member of the Wedding is a teenager of very odd characteristics, her clothing, language and verbal or physical outbursts all conflict with the social norms set by the broad community. She cannot fit in because she is different and gets kicked out of the group she once belonged to. This becomes an issue for Frankie as she is experiencing changes from becoming a woman and does not have the support needed from her peers. The denial of individuality is a cost suffered by individuals in belonging to
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