Identity Essay

436 WordsNov 22, 20142 Pages
A child treated this way learns to see themselves as unlovable and others as rejecting, and they tend to be apprehensive about relationships. A dismissive attachment style is one in which a parent/caregiver is disinterested in, rejects or abuses a child. Children who develop this style do not accept a parent's view of them as unlovable, unlike a fearful attachment. They think others are untrustworthy and they will develop a positive view of themselves, but have a low regard for others and relationships. An anxious/ambivalent style is more complex because it is fostered by inconsistent treatment by the parent/caregiver. One time they can be loving and attentive, and another time indifferent or rejecting, which is not only inconsistent, but also unpredictable. (Wood, J. T., 2006) How does a child deal with such influences? Most of the time children deal with those influences by becoming dysfunctional adults. Children brought up in these types of environments can end up feeling many different emotions relating to self; insecurity, unworthiness, anxiety, and poor regard for themselves and others. Hmmm, one wonders how we manage to get where we are today. I can only surmise that upon reaching adolescence, my communication had by then opened up to include generalized others, some of whom influenced me in a very positive way. Those positive influences were uppers who communicated good reflected appraisals, "How another person's view of us affects how we see ourselves". (Wood, J. T., 2006). Part of the reason that I did well in some of my school classes, while not so well in others, could be because of those afore mentioned reflected appraisals. At this moment, one must remember that one is 59 years old and still learning how to use the skills that are taught in Interpersonal Communication. As an adolescent, I was very shy socially. I had internalized views of society and

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