How to Develop an Agreeable Personality Being Open to Criticism

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How to develop an agreeable personality being open to criticism Have you ever seen a person who gets furious when others criticize him/her? I read in an article that when a person is criticized, his/her body automatically gets a defensive position. Various elements play a role in this process and by being aware of them; we can manage criticism properly and have an agreeable personality toward it. We can classify these psychological and sociological elements to three categories: presupposition, selfishness and pessimism. If we can solve these three destructive elements, most of our problems toward criticism will be solved too. One factor which plays a major role is presupposition. I remember one time I was with my relatives and we were talking about our college majors. One of my cousins criticized me about my major and said that it was not suitable for boys and that it was good for girls and such statements that made me lose my temper and a quarrel began. Although I personally believe in what he said, I lost my control because I supposed that he wanted to humiliate me. People get aggressive toward criticizes because of their selfishness. According to the article I read, If human beings do not act selfishly, they will accept every criticism even those which are not fair (Aftab, Psychological article, Aug 10, 2012). As it was vivid by the mentioned example one of the things which caused the quarrel between my cousin and I was my selfishness. Another thing that I should mention in this essay is the effect of pessimism. Usually we are pessimistic toward criticism which can be the result of the two previously mentioned factors, presupposition and selfishness. Pessimistic people don’t tolerate criticism even if it is for their own sake. In conclusion to all that I said, for having a society which is open and optimistic toward

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