Deception rules the land, self-deception included. Not knowing what you’re doing risks bad faith, and living exclusively in the present, and leaving sodden emotional disasters strewn behind.” Pg. 408. I like to think that deception could be used to show the power of the panopticon. Because your partner is the person you have power over and by using deception they can’t truly see what you are doing, so they go on not doing anything bad because they don’t know if they can see you but they might be watched.
When you lie about something, you put a lot of thought into it and decide yourself whether the truth or a lie is better for you. When you bullshit, you know barely enough to just get by without having to put any effort into what you are supposed to have done. The bullshitter is lazy, and laziness is not a trait that we should
Furthermore a lie is about simply being selfish. A person can be lying about his qualifications just to get to that stage where he is recognized by the others. He might be suffering later on, however. If a person is short of patience, he will use all sorts of reasons to lie and just to get away from others. This way he will not waste his time and not making a bad impression on other people as well.
We lie to people we think would misuse the truth in unfair or dangerous ways. Keeping the truth secret or deceiving people is only effective when those people believe we are providing them with the truth. Lies only work if we lie infrequently enough, to be believed and relied on when we do lie. Honesty is about keeping promises to tell the truth. Accepting our promise to tell the truth puts someone is a relationship with us.
“When you're a beautiful person on the inside, there is nothing in the world that can change that about you. Jealousy is the result of one's lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-acceptance. The Lesson: If you can't accept yourself, then certainly no one else will.” In Joan Didion’s essay, with the help of periodic sentences and metaphorical language, she explains that self-respect does not come from others but from within oneself; it cannot be achieved when one is averse to oneself. Didion was looking for outer gratification, but through the ordeal of being rejected, gains the knowledge that self-respect is proper value of one’s character, and learning to love oneself. One can only be truly happy when one learns to accept oneself.
As a society I don’t think that some people don’t intend to lie to hurt someone intentionally all the time but they lie to make them feel better some times. Is this always the case, I don’t think so, I just think that as a whole society has almost condoned lying in some aspect, little white lies. As it was quoted in the book by Nietzche “There is only one world, and that is false, cruel, contradictory, misleading, senseless. We need lies to vanquish this reality, this “truth”, we need lies in order to live. That lying is a necessity of life itself a
The only way that researchers can possibly tell whether or not a witness is telling the truth or not are deception cues. These are behavioural, paralinguistic, physiological and the content of the statement (Vrij 2000). Body language can also say a great deal about a person. Some say that a simple glance to the left when a person is speaking is an indication that they are lying. The amount a person sweats and their communication skills are other signals that a person is telling a lie.
Being an ignorant person can be a negative thing since ignorance comes from a lie.You are lying to yourself, thinking you know more than everyone else and feeling like you are better than anyone else. You start becoming greedy and selfish, thinking that your way is better. You can also be looking at one side of an argument instead of both sides therefore being stubborn about the situation you’re in. If you
However you may have felt about them before, you can’t help but distance yourself from them now. You begin to question everything they tell you and lose faith in them. When it is yourself that has been caught up in the web of lies and lying, you find the lie always travels outward becoming larger and more complex. Which each telling of a lie it becomes more real in your mind to the point that you have now formed a false reality for yourself. If one is always impeccable with their word, be it with themselves or with the world around them, they will always find comfort in that truth.
Lies are harmful and apologetic people are rarely taken seriously. I need to state my wishes and requests clearly and directly. Don't be manipulative, defensive, or sexually seductive. But there are also other things that people need to stop and think about that could help and approve communication. Like no passive - aggressive behavior, or expressing anger indirectly in the form of criticism, sarcasm, nagging or nitpicking.