FATHER/SON RELATIONSHIP Blacky’s relationship with his father is integral in moulding the adolescent that he is. Although the relationship between the two is clearly negative, it somewhat helps him to look past the fatherly influences, and to seek positive role models to assist him through the journey to maturity. Blacky’s self-esteem levels are low due to the negative relationship and he expects no support from his father. His relationship with his mother, the relationships he develops with other men assist Blacky in developing the courage to stand up for what he believes in. During the course of the novel of ‘Deadly Unna?’ the readers are exposed to the negativity between the father and his son.
Parents of the 1700's had different parenting values then the parents of today. Lord Chesterfield's letter to his traveling son, whom is traveling all around England, is a prime example of this. At first, Chesterfield seems full of doubt, wondering if his letter will even be of any help to his son. However, later on, the letter shifts into a seemingly threatning tone, telling his son that he needs to treat life like a competition and be better then everybody. With the use of understatement and irony, the letter states his values as a loving, yet strict father who only wants his son to succeed and nothing more.
Jim’s father felt that if he could pay his way through college and still make Phi Beta Kappa then Jim could do with his grades. Jim’s father also felt that if Jim would party with his friends less and study harder he could get better than average grades. This was a negative in Jim’s opinion. 4. Apply the process of perception, starting on p. 64 to explain the interaction between Jim and his father.
Furthermore, males often see sport as an opportunity to get aggressive physically; as a means to release their anger. Just as character Louie Lastik says, “...may as well hit someone while I’m at it.” Through playing football, the boys not only became more knowledgeable in the sport, but also learnt a variety of values and ethics involving of justice, respect for one’s superiors, and the matter of standing up for one’s beliefs and for the rights of others. In addition, the young men were taught that what counts in life is what is inside a man’s heart, as oppose to his appearance; just as Coach Yoast told Boone: “You’ve taught this city to trust the soul of a man, rather than the look of him.” b) One of the practices that Coach Boone employed to breakdown the racial barriers was the desegregation of the white American males and the African American males. This was shown a couple of times during the film; with examples being Boone merging the two cultures together onto the buses to the camp, as well as having both the white and black males share the lodging facilities. Initially, the adolescents were hateful toward one another, but after being forced to acknowledge one another and training together, the young men eventually became accepting of everyone.
Father's Influence Throughout our life we come across a person who changes the viewpoint of our life so we shall benefit from it. For me, both my parents have had a continuous impact on my life, but my father has had the most extensive one. Even though he is a workaholic, he has always had time to come to parent meetings, my sports matches and many other activities that other parents shrug off. Even though I despised being put into the sports I had been in as a child, I am happy that my dad had forced me into being an active member of them. Even though I was not always the best player, my dad made me feel as if I was by the small but important things he did.
But the question is whether parents should shave the right to check their teens social media accounts. Teenagers want their privacy, especially from their parents. They want to have conversations and inside jokes that belong only to them and their friends. Teenagers do not want to feel like they are sharing everything in their lives with their parents. This is why I believe parents should not be able to check their teen’s social media accounts.
When someone has committed to spend their life with another person, they have two people to care for, themselves and their partner. Even though I believe marriage is a beautiful experience, it can make one forget about themselves and their life aside from their wife or husband. I know firsthand, that this can have drastic consequences. A few years ago my dad was diagnosed with diabetes and instead of treating it as recommended; he ignored the issue until it significantly affected his family’s life and himself. Because my dad was too busy raising and caring for his own family, he did not give himself enough attention and as an effect to his diabetes, he became extremely violent, which almost caused my parents to divorce.
Self-concept and Perception Impact Interpersonal Communication Self –concept is an idea of the self constructed from the beliefs one holds about oneself and the responses of others. Jim’s self-concept impacted his interaction with his father in a negative way. This is only because Jim is not his father and doing things such as his father expected from him. The way we want our children to be is our own self-concept but it doesn’t always turn out that way. Jim’s self-concept is, “I just want to go to school and do the best I can and be normal.” Such as hang out, party a little from time to time, basically living his own life not the life of his father’s.
Achebe described Okonkwo's father in this way: “Unoka (Okonkwo's father) …was lazy and improvident and was quite incapable of thinking about tomorrow.” (Achebe 4) In contrasting that to the culture I have been brought up in, it seems that the majority of men who had a father like Unoka responded in living their life in trying to make up for what their father lacked in his – which is the same idea that I felt that Okonkwo's goals and ideas were based on. I say this because of how often he had to fight the urge to show affection or love to his children and wives, and also to his believing that if he told Nwoye stories of battle and destruction that Nwoye would become more of a man. I feel grateful that I have been raised in a family that the idea of showing affection is encouraged, and that there is nothing wrong with the feminist traits of women, and that it is ok for me to have them. I have been raised to always express yourself through words and emotion, and in some cases physically. If one of my five sisters or one of my 4 brothers did something nice for me I wouldn't just turn my shoulder and pretend like nothing happened or just stare at her/him with indifference, but I would
Due to his lack of friends he tries to create a bond with Sam and it makes it even more valuable due to Hally’s loneliness. He would always “try out a few ideas but sooner or later” he’d “end up in there with” Sam and Willie. He would always look for something to do and always wonder what he should do and think of some ideas but in the end he knew that they would always be there and he would never be let down by them. Hally feels a strong sense of humiliation and all of it because of his crippled and alcoholic father whom made him feel a constant let down in his life. When Hally was young his father “was dead drunk on the floor of the Central Hotel Bar” and Sam helped Hally bring him home.