Holden is always searching for a new friend but he always turns away at the last moment. When Holden interacts with women in the novel, he is very different when he interacts with men. The female characters all are very important because they present and symbolize many different things. In addition, Holden is very nice to younger females but to older females he gets sexually attracted. When this happens he will do anything to get women`s attention, which leads to him being an extremely disrespectful and impolite teenager who is also very immature.
A good example is when Holden had the chance to see Jane, an old friend, and didn’t feel like going down to see her, but then later on was frustrated because he kept thinking about her and Stadlater trying to make a move. He then kind of wished he would of went down and visited with her. The lyric, “Someone help him or he’s gonna end up quitting,” relates to how Holden needs someone to, as the book says, “help him.” Holden talks about running away and starting a new life and just quitting the one he has. He is always running in the novel, but he finally has no other option than to go to his former English teacher, Mr. Antiloni, who gives him some advice that he later on understands. The lyric, “He makes a plan to take a stand but always ends up sitting,” correlates to how Holden will try to make a friend, or stand up for something, but in the end he fails.
This chosen mental distance to other people made the finding of an acceptable wife nearly impossible, which brought him to call upon the marriage broker Pinye Salzman. The matchmaker's appearance is somewhat unsettling to Finkle, but still he puts his trust into the man to find a suitable partner. Already in the beginning of the story, Finkle is unhappy with the broker's work, asking about the number of cards in his hand in disappointment. He was unsure of the man's ability to find a woman due to not even personally knowing the student first. Quickly, Finkle and Salzman move through the prospects on the broker's cards, but none of them fit the young man's desire.
A lack of this fundamental building block in a relationship can cause many disagreements and arguments. In “Say Yes”, by Tobias Wolff, the relationship between the two people has gone astray partly due to their ineffective communication: “Sometimes his wife got this look where she pinched her brows together and bit her lower lip and started down at something. When he saw her like this he knew he should keep his mouth shut, but he never did. Actually it made him talk more” (74). From here, the couple proceeded to get into quite the argument, showing that their communication habits are, indeed, unhealthy because the husband continued to talk, even though he knew it would lead to a disagreement.
Holden is deeply in love with Jane Gallagher. Jane doesn’t feel the same way and goes out on a date with many guys, specifically Stradlater whom Holden hates. Holden thinks Jane is amazing and gets jealous when that one date happened. Jim as well has that one girl who, one look got him hooked. Her name was Judy.
Tyhesia Simpson August 4, 2012 AP English 11 Holden INTRODUCTION PARAGRAPH One of Holden’s biggest struggles is feeling lonely and trying to seek companionship. Throughout the novel Holden has a difficult time connecting with people around him but deep in his heart he is longing for love and companionship. You see this when he first gets to New York and he decides that he wants to call someone. This is eerie considering his dislike of people. After not getting a hold of someone, he seeks out women to flirt with to try to fill that void in his heart.
In saying this however, Holden is often recognised as a phony himself such as when he gives himself the identity of Rudolf Shmidt on the train or when he refuses sexual opportunities despite always thinking, questioning and desiring sex e.g. lying to Sunny the prostitute about having a “clavichord injury” to avoid having sex. He also contradicts himself by having a strong desire for innocence and an immature mind, yet undertakes adult activities e.g. drinking & smoking. * Through his personal insecurities and rough past (such Allie’s death, flunking a number of schools and losing valued relationships) Holden explores self hatred/disappointment and in turn presents a phony persona to hide his flaws.
Claudio was too scared to confront Hero and confess his feelings and so Don Pedro promised that he would speak to Leonato about setting them up. But this still scared Claudio and he can’t tell Hero he loves her so Don Pedro said he’ll organise something where he can pretend to be Claudio and fix them up and admit his feelings towards her as Claudio. Personally, I think it might be a bit strange to have the Prince chat up the girl that Claudio loves but as long as his love is returned, everything shall be
Dunstan Ramsay, the novel’s protagonist exhibits the issue of how a rough childhood can impede on relationships later on in life. Dunstan’s relationship with his mother leads him to develop three problems that arise in his dating life. The first problem is Dunstan’s trust issues; he can never fully trust a woman due to his betrayal of trust with his mother. The second problem is Dunstan’s negative depiction of sexual relations. Due to his mother’s stern moral beliefs, he does not have much interest in sexual relations and has negative views on it.
As an adult in the present day Mr X fears his mother’s verbal reprisals, such as if he were to seek to change the day he visits her, whilst at the same time he craves her approval and respect, due in part to growing up trying to constantly gain acceptance and encouragement from his parents against overwhelming negativity. His lack of self-worth has resulted in Mr X burdening himself with worry in regard to others’ views and opinions of him. He finds it difficult to socialise and fully relate to his colleagues and as such has been staying in the background with regards to suggesting alternative nights to go out. Lack of self-esteem has also contributed to preventing him from progressing his relationship with his girlfriend and fear of rejection is apparent throughout the arenas of Mr X’s life, wholly preventing him from moving forward. “Self-esteem is one of the fundamental influences on nearly everything you do.