The Conscientious/Conformist may say things such as “I am”, content most of the time, worried about my love affair, or that they have hopes for a successful future. The Conscientious person may feel that they are lucky because they love their life, and feel like they are no better than anyone else. Some responses from someone considered to be individualistic were that they were a rather complex person, as they felt everyone else is too, a woman, wife, student, or just an individual person. They may also have hopes that the state of man will be better. When getting sample responses from someone considered to be Autonomous, they were an introvert, shy, but they had a desire to be friendly as well as outgoing.
Rusbult and Martz used this theory to explain why victims of domestic abuse remain in relationships, as they may still be in profit from the relationship despite the ‘cost’ of abuse. This profit may be due to the high investment the person has placed in the relationship, such as children. However this theory has many weak points, one being that you can’t accurately assess costs and benefits within a relationship making it hard it attribute maintenance of relationships on a profit from the relationship. The theory can also be viewed as reductionist for it focuses solely on the costs and benefits of the relationship for the individual with relationships being much more complex than this. As well as omitting factors such as emotion from consideration, despite the basis of what we believe to be a ‘romantic relationship’ being based on feelings and emotion.
"Although speakers expected their spouse to understand them better than strangers, accuracy rates for spouses and strangers were statistically identical. This result is striking because speakers were more confident that they were understood by their spouse," as said in a study by, author Kenneth Savtsky. Couples sometimes may think that they understand each other but, it is so easy to be misunderstood, even in a close relationship. I totally agree with the article in that, married people tend to get preoccupied,
The idea that money brings happiness is nothing more than a myth; money only helps an individual become more of what they already are. This statement, that money can not bring happiness, may seem unrealistic, but in fact it is not. Studies such as the one done by Daniel Kahneman, PhD, and colleagues prove that “it’s just an illusion that wealth brings happiness”(webmd.com). In this study, Kahneman states that “people are likely to overrate the joy-bringing effect of whatever they’re thinking about at the time, whether it’s money or the number of dates they had last week”(webmd.com). By this, Kahneman is saying that money does not bring happiness, but the thought of wealth brings temporary pleasure.
One theory to explain the formation of romantic relationships is the reward theory. The theory that we are attracted to people whose presence is rewarding to us, and that the more rewards that someone provides for us the more we should be attracted to them. Proximity, similarity, physical attractiveness and exposure & familiarity are the key factors which influence initial attraction through their reward value. In a study by Festinger et al. he studied university students and found that students were generally closer to those people living next door and were more distant to those living further away, it was also the same with those living in flats; people living more than 4 doors away were not friends.
February 10, 2014 Word Count: When you think of professional athletes, what is the first thought that comes to mind? The popular position is that pro athletes are seriously overpaid. Without a doubt pro athletes go through extensive training and severe game day conditions. In that case, their salary should be a reasonable amount instead of signing contracts for millions of dollars when they should only get paid, on average, around two-hundred thousand. Why pro athletes get paid more than doctors baffles me because they don’t save lives or perform life or death surgeries.
People think that just because you are famous; have money and all the nice things, that you are always happy. You have the pressure from everyone around you to act as they do and you forget who you are deep down inside. You want to be accepted and have them like you, not look at your weird because you are different. What do you do when you are put in a situation of fame and fortune? You make yourself fit in so the people like you and don’t leave you as an “outcast”.
“Romantic relationships begin with a lot of sharing and excitement, but as time goes on, children, elderly parents, exercise routines, volunteer work and even hobbies can push the relationship to the back burner” (Schoenberg, 2011) I can relate to this article on the self disclosure in a relationship. In my experience it is important to have good quality communication even if the quantity of time is not available. If you and your significant other can have a good ten minutes of good quality communication, I believe it will make for a better relationship. Self disclosure is important in a relationship and is directly related to great satisfaction in your relationship with your partner. You can be in a relationship for years and still not know everything about your partner.
This process is known as socialization. Among these socializing factors are gender, economic status, attitudes of parents, level and quality of education, and the influence of peers. While it is easy to say that you can reach wondrous goals by working hard and putting forth a hard effort, it is far easier for some people to climb the social ladder than it is for others. For example, sociological reasoning argues that a baby born to a wealthy married couple who demonstrate a great deal of love and nurturing is going to have an easier time getting ahead in life than a baby born to an impoverished, homeless, single mother. The sociological perspective holds that free will is a myth.
What does happiness mean to you? When asked to compare my definition of happiness and compare it to societies, it has taken me some time to come up with a way to do this without sounding conceited. Society views happiness as having the expensive house, the expensive car and the expensive lifestyle. One might even measure that as a type of success. For me, I like to “keep it simple stupid.’ What I mean by “keeping it simple stupid” is that it is really the simple things in life that make me happy such as waking up every day and being able to walk, breathe, see, and hear.