Gone but Not Forgotten
Losing someone or something you love or care deeply about is very painful. A person may experience all kinds of difficult emotions and it may feel like the pain and sadness that they are experiencing will never let up. These are normal reactions to a significant loss. But while there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain that, in time, can be renewed and help someone move on. Dealing with this pain can cause a person to become stronger or unfortunately can affect them negatively.
The characters in both Katie Crouch’s Men and Dogs and Sue Monk Kidd’s The Secret Life of Bees have to deal with the difficult process of moving on from a loved one’s death. Lily Owens, a fourteen year old living in South Carolina not only has to deal with her mother being killed when she is four but Lily is also told that she is the one who killed her. Lily suffers tremendous guilt for killing her mother, and at night she dreams of dying, meeting her mother in heaven, and asking for her forgiveness. In Men and Dogs, Buzz Legare disappears on his boat and is later pronounced dead. His sudden death brings challenges to the whole family and we follow his daughter Hannah as she struggles to keep her sanity. While reading the novels, it becomes apparent that everyone varies on how well they deal with the loss of a loved one.
In The Secret Life of Bees, as Lily Owens grows up she becomes more curious about what really happened to her mother. While living with her abusive father who she chooses to only call T. Ray, Lily feels that she is lacking certain femininity in her life. She battles with her hair which was “constantly going off in eleven different directions” (Kidd 3) and when she woke up with a rose-petal stain on her panties she was “so proud of that flower and didn’t have a soul to show it to except Rosaleen”(13). Rosaleen is Lily’s housekeeper and one of her only friends. Lily’s curiosities about...